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I'm not ready to kiss or hug my girlfriend. Am I frigid at 12?

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Question - (17 March 2005) 73 Answers - (Newest, 2 March 2009)
A , anonymous writes:

Hey! I am 12 years old and I am with a girl in my form. We've been going out for just about a week alone, and I guess I am frigid/shy. I am shy to kiss her or even hug her in the playground. My mates always kiss their girlfriends! What do I do???!!!

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A female reader, elmo95 United States +, writes (2 March 2009):

ok nobody is frigid i am 13 and i know how you feel i have a bf and i think i want him to kiss me and it would be my first kiss and i reaaly don't know what to do either but i know nobody id frigid

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A male reader, sk8erboiandres United States +, writes (5 February 2009):

hey im 12 also and have a gf. weve been together for 3 months. weve also been on 3 movie dates. we hug when we say hello/goodbye and weve held hands. weve had a peck on the lips once, and it was partly cuz the ppl we were with (it was a double date) made us. we are having our 4th movie date on valentines day and i wanna kiss her 4 longer this time, but idk when. ive asked her friend if she would and she said she would, i just dont kno the right time. like when: during the movie? saying goodbye? when?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008):

The hugging is pretty easy. I hugged a guy I was crushing today, he's 17 and I'm 12! Plus he has a GF. He was just being sweet!

Just kiss when you're ready!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (9 October 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntI got a tip for you helperman, this guy is now three years older than you. Check out the date.

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A male reader, HELPERMAN United Kingdom +, writes (9 October 2008):

i got a good tip for you as i am realy your age and in the sort of same situation but the thing is i want to kiss here but never get the right moments.

so just wait for a realy good moment when your both on your own or look for signs in here face to see if she wants to kiss? or if you realy want to kiss here just ask here or ask here freind if she is shy or not...

or you can just simply wait till shes looking at you and simply go for it, what could go wrong??? well alright u could get slapped or dumped but if you dont then good luck with your relationship...

if this helps (proberly wont) but if it does help then tell me

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008):

I agree with all of these answers. Just go for it. If she thinks you're frigid but doesn't want to help you overcome this problem, then you should ask yourself if she is really worth being with. My ex-girlfriend never gave me the opportunity, then blamed me for being frigid. She also told most of her school. So now we are no longer together.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008):

hey im 13 (: and i was frigid once aswell but if u kiss her as ur about to say goodbye and dont make big deal over it even tho it is a big deal then its easy to make ur second kiss.after my first kiss i got a gf who i really liked and she really liked me but i'm still uncomfortable with "getting off" with her even though i knew she wanted to its just i wasnt sure what she would think of it and i didnt want her to think i was a bad kisser if u know what i mean but eventually u get the hang of things (:

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008):

I used to be frigid as well but I got over it when i got a gf who wasn't ...If u 2 go on dates walk her home and then say "goodnight" and hug her and while her arms are around you stare into her eyes and you'll be able know whether she wants to kiss or not. I'm 12 by the way i just got dumped yesterday so don't feel bad if you do. Lol

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008):

Yo dude you should just totally relax. Kiss her when she is mad or sad. If she doesn't like you get to know her and hang with her friends. If she likes you back kiss her in front of your friends and her friends.( I found that online dude it makes you look brave and cool) I kissed my babe in front of my friends in the rain. It was sweet! Dude and say yes when she asks if you want to go steady!!!( OR MAKE OUT!!!!!!! It was awesome dude.)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008):

hey i'm a 13 year old with a boyfriend, he kissed me and we hug and stuff, the fisrt time it is kinda aqward because everyone teases u afterward but it is worth it, like the first couple weeks we were going out it was a big deal but now it isnt caz everyone knows we love each other and stuff

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008):

hey buddy dont worry im ur age and my first kiss wasent to easy either its best if ur alone best of luck m8 and remember-its your fist kiss enjoy it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

hey man just try it and then after the first time it starts to become an everyday thing when i first wanted 2 rub my girlfriends chest i was nervous but then i was just like what the hell and not its pretty much an everyday thing

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008):

just block out everyone around you and go for it, try to forget they are all there.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):

i'm really frigid too, and i hate it.i always hug my boyfriend, but the first time i kissed him i didn't really enjoy it.but its worse cos i know he wants me to kiss him, but he also knows that i dont want to.What should i do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

Hi :) I'm 14 and i just got called frigid by my bf.

Its more than just a kiss that im talking about bt im older than you and it still has the sme affect on me.

Youre not frigid.. your just not ready.. and thats ok.

Just give your gf a littl kiss on the cheek.. she will love it.. just becos yu tried, she will appreciate it.

Its ok to be shy :)

x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

okay, look it may be a little late, but you're not frigid. Ots cute when guys are shy, and you're only twelve. you might be mature for your age but deep inside you know girls still have cooties

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

Well it isnt like you kiss your girlfriend as soon as you see her,

If your frigid dont worry!

it happens to 60% of kids around.

If your shy she'll turn her face...do the old tactic.

If your leaving (not dumping) like going home.

give her a goodbye kiss and see if it works.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008):

If you aren't ready just let is be if she really likes you she will trust you and let you take the time until you are ready I am 12 to and I didnt want to hud or kiss or whatever with my boyfreind and I let him know that and its totally cool he took it fine and now wehave been goign out for 6 moths and hug all the time..So big tip take it easy!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008):

hey im a 13 year old girl and ive got a boyfriend. dont worry becoz no1s frigid , it just takes longa for different ppl. you will eventually kiss her and shell like it. if ur jus worried abwt holding hands or huggin ask her friends to set u up becoz dat always works, trust me.

ur first kiss is usually the most special so make sure that its just u nd her, with no friends. just play with her hair coz all girls luv that , jus dnt mess it up coz then she probz wont be happy lol. jus put ur arm around her shoulders , hips or waist. compliment her nd eventually shell catch on nd flirt. wen tha moment feels rite just lean nd kiss her gently on the lips or on the cheek if u dnt feel that brave. if she likes it then all the tension will jus drop.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008):

ok now u just try and kiss her on the cheek if she blushes then she liked it. But if she dosent then or if she looks at u funny then there is a problem. but if she likes it try agian next time at recces and kiss her on the lips make sure ur good and brushed ur teeth just incase of the toung i am twelve to but yes she migtht do a little french if she loves it but then just go oon from there so frist: kiss cheek

next kiss lips

then FRIENDLY hug and kiss

after that just go hard but dont use strength in arms i mean with ur lips but gentle if she likes it

final makeout means cross hug (NOT A FAMILY HUG) kiss lips go to coner of playground and eyes close use ur lips and rub hers like pinch using ur lips like a massage and cock ur head to the side back and forth (VERY) slowly with ur lips moving like a closing O and then openig O slow if she likes she wont push u her leg will pop

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

I WAS SHY JUST HUG HER IF SHE IS FEELING DOWN ASK HER IF SHE WANTS A HUG,

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008):

what you should do is get her in a good mood (such as when she is happy) and give her a quick kiss on the cheek and see how she reacts or if you want to hug her put your arm (1 arm) around near her shoulders and give her a small hug and see how she reacts and a am 12 also with a gf

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008):

Hey

look i know what you are going through......

i remeber when i had my first boyfriend n i was nervous as hell to even think of kissing him. I kissed him on the cheek n then thats wen the tension broke.

All you ned is to do the small things until you both comfertible moving on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008):

Hey - I am 12 and I am going out with a boy from another form, never kissed, I have known him since I was 6 but I never liked him then.

He asked me out a couple of weeks ago and he was the one who asked for a hug first, I give him a hug when I have to say goodbye when he goes to a different lesson.

But there is a rumour that on friday (at the year 7 & 8 disco) that he is gonna kiss me! I am a bit nervous but anyone would.

Just because you havent kissed her yet doesn't mean anything - You just need to wait for the right time, invite her round to watch a soppy movie then when it gets to a really sad bit it could happen then!

Remeber you are not frigid - these things take time!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008):

hey dude im 13 and i hav a girlfriend but i am going on a school trip with her to canada(hopefully itll be cold and we will hug to keep warm my advice spend some more time wit her and git to no her better then u will be more comfortable! good luck

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008):

I will help you, First off don't push your luck with her go for a neck cheeck and if she is really lyking it try for the lips the world wont spontaniously combust just try it. Oh shit forgot don't kiss again at lips if you are pushed away or anything like that FINAL THOUGHT. i had the same problem and i went for it before i knew it she sat on my lap and everytime i kissed her she moaned "i love you" this went on for like ten minutes and we just continued watching the movie but she rested her head on my shoulder.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007):

Don't be scared,

because she is just as

scared as you. You are

the guy, but don't move

too fast. Just kiss her

whe it's the right time :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007):

someone said i was frigid because i wouldnt talk to his friend [who i happen to like totally have a crush on. lmao] but ACTUALLY turns out im not frigid at all...just shy. COZ i do want to talk to him and stuff. just cant find the courage to................ ANYWAY personally, i don tthink your frigid..just shy... if your not ready to kiss your gf then dont... wait until it feels right. ;)

lol x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007):

Hi! Im the same age as you and i am always tellin my bf to kiss me because girls are into that romantic heat of the moment kiss. Like you bump heads and then they look into eachothers eyes and kiss. And if your not ready then just try to kiss her if you dont like it you dont have to do it again! Just try to kiss her.

OK?

KS

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007):

dude dont worry ya nt frigid

bt if u lyk her just hug her the world wont explode or anything soo just take it slow!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007):

Hi. I'm 13 and was searching the web. This website came up so I thought i might try to help.

I have had a few girlfriends in the last few years, but on all three occasions I have been to nervous to kiss them. I will hug them (I hug anybody even if we arn't going out) but I didn't think I was ready.

All of my friends were teasing me saying I was a friggid etc. but at the end of the day, if I enjoy being with her, I'll be with her, even if we arn't sucking eachother's faces off.

Recently, however, I have been more comfortable to kiss girls and my confidence is great now.

Basicly what i'm saying is - it will all come in time. Don't rush yourself and if you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007):

hey dude, don't worry if you dont feel comfortable dont do it, it will come as you grow, im 15 and i know, this may sound weird but when i was 13 my gf wanted me to finger them but i didnt want to i wasnt ready, now im old enough to experience that its ok to do it, 2 years ago i wouldnt dream of it. its the very same as your hormones develope you will feel comfortable and want to show affection and you will come to enjoy it and want to do it all the time if you truly like the person. so wait until your ready you have many years ahead of you to develope feelings like those

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

no i dont think ur frigit ur just not ready yet.and dont worry about ur mates u and ur girlfriend will kiss/hug when ur both ready.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007):

i am 12 but there is nothing to fell bad a about first go be hinder and hold her the kiss her that is wat i did in year 5 but wen you togue her at first it feels weired then it feels so good but if you are scared of asking her get one of your mates

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007):

hey im 13 and i had the same problem, i did want to kiss her but was affraid she wouldnt like it so i asked one of my gf's for help she asked my gf if it was ok and i did it when i was dark.............well what im trying to say is if you want to hug and kiss her do it when your alone with her or in the dark.....with the hugging part thats just comes with being shy

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007):

hiya im 12 but im a girl ....if u dont want to kiss her cant you trii being with her for a little bit hang around with her and when u both stoP just lean towards her ....just a suggestion cos if you lean towards her she will get what your trying to get at lol x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007):

nooo way just do it every 1 else does so y cnt u

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007):

hey dont wory man take it slow love takes a while im 12 and iv only huged twice and both were from peer pressure . i havent even atempted to kiss .peer presure sucks i know how u feel.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007):

well...i'm 12 to. and my boyfriend has been going out with me for about 2 months. but its summer and we dont see each other often. but i'm not comfortable kissing or hugging him yet, but i can somewhat tell that he is. just do what i do, keep a friend with you when you see him/her until your ready to kiss or hug him. because with someone else there they would most likely do neither.

sincerly,

12 year old chica

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007):

hey...ummm maybe you should ask your girlfriend if she is bothered about kissing/hugging...if she's not then your fine but if she wants to then maybe you'll start having to...when you feel like it could be the perfect kissing moment just don't think about it and just go for it!! hope helps..b3kka xx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007):

i now how u feel i have been dating my girlfriend for 1 month and i still havent put my arm around her kiss or hug not even hold hands so i need some advice too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007):

from guys point of you i'm 12 to i have the same problem me and my girl have going out for at least 3 week today and in my first week i wanted to kiss her so bad and what happend it rain i took her for a walk go where ever you and her fell ok and then talk for a bit and then put your arm around her if she push's you away it mean's she not ready for it she mean's give it time but if dhe fine with that move in closer and try and kiss her on her cheek if she fine with that go for the lips and then if she responds well then keep doing and a few week's after you'll be making out

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007):

Don't worry luv, you're not a bit frigid, just absolutely normal. Don't try to rush this business, it only gets more complicated from there out anyways.

Perhaps eventually you'll feel like kissing her, or perhaps she just isn't the sort of girl for you. Either way, you certainly still aren't frigid.

Have no worries, dearie.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007):

No ur not frigid my boyfriend and i were the same.But one day he just built up the courage and he kissed me on the cheek its ok it takes time cause it took him 4 months to kiss me on the cheek.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007):

Omg you are only 12

you are in grade seven!!!!

Omg when i was in grade seven there were only like a couple of people kissed

kids these days are doing so much so early

this one girl had sex at 12 what a slut

I do admit when I was 14 I pashed a 12 yr old boy he has also pashed a emo guy

At least when you do get the guts to kiss, no pashing until grade 8 and no sex until grade 12!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007):

hiya you are not frigid just try to start off by simply holding her hand and hugging her by putting your hands around her waist and holding her close then when you get more confident kiss her on the cheek or softly on her lips then when you are ok with that try to kiss her on the lips for 5-10 seconds with your eyes closed if she dosnt want to do that its ok you will be able to kiss confidently if you follow these steps and know what your girlfriend is like then you should be on your way to have a successful relationship with her .

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006):

I am 12 year old and I don't have the courage to kiss my

girlfriend.My friends tell me to kiss her but I don't have

the couarage to.....WHAT SHOULD I DO?....

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006):

You know, maybe just let the world know you two like (maybe love) each other. I mean, cmon just get it over with and kiss.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006):

hey i just had my first kiss the other day.I didnt really enjoy it coz i didnt want to do it.but my bf just kissed me and now im scared later into our relationship we are goin to hav to pash and i have never pashed a guy before.Take my advice WAIT UNTIL U R TOTALLY READY SO U CAN ENJOY IT!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2006):

dude,

you got to take it easy aight

you got to go against your shyness or what evr you have and be brave

but if u try to do it and she's not ready,

big trouble

but you have to take it slow if your neer her get a bit closer and if she pulls away she's not ready

trust me

mine isn't ready just yet either

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (13 March 2006):

willywombat agony auntHoney you are 12. Dont just do someting becasue you friends are doing it. Think for yourself, if you aint ready you aint ready.

Slow down and enjoy just holding hands, there is no need to grow up so fast.x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006):

Just talk 2 her if u two really get along she will tell u about it but if she goes off you, then at least you know she wasn't right for you, i know this works ive tried it once and have only needed to try it once!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006):

Just relax and when your ready your ready..if u love her it s gonna come and your gonna be able to

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006):

Hey im 13 when i was in year 6 i kissed a boy and i wasnt scared but now im going out with this boy i really like but when it comes that he wants me to kiss him i dont no i like hesitate and think about it too much and people call me frigid what shall i do and im scared he'll either dump me or make fun off me?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006):

kay girls will hug you if you just do something nice like buy her a present.they love to hug and its really nice so try it and you'll be happy

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006):

You should just go to a place withought your friends where u are comfortable to hug and kiss your girlfriend but also you should not be kissing your girlfriend just because ure mates are kissing thiers u should kiss wen u feel u are ready not wen ure mates are ready!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006):

im 13 and a girl look it, this will sound stupid to you but you need to tell her this it could break you up. tell her how you feel about not being able to hug her or kiss her in the playground for all you know if you tell her you wont have to kiss or hug her shell hug and kiss you first once you get used to this idea im sure you will feel better about it all

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006):

lol same me I am 12, Just ask to your girlfriend to get out. It simple? Better you kiss your girlfriend when was in Valentine's Day.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006):

Hey dude! don't worry so much! Take it easy! i'm a girl and i haven't kissed either but i'm 13. anw it comes on it's own at the right time and i bet it's great! if u don't have enough courage, when you're on ur own say have u ever kissed? obviously she will say no so say would you want me to kiss u? and she'll say yes!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005):

1) The first thing to make sure of is that you’re both having a good time, getting along well and physical contact has been established. It could be anything from holding hands, to a playful push on the shoulder. At this point it is important that she has touched you in some way indicating interest on her part.

2) When you feel you have reached this point, start slowing down the energy of the interaction. Start subtly moving a bit closer to her, slowing down your speech, and take longer pauses between sentences. The thought here is SUBTLE.

3) Now here’s the secret, the one move that will assure you to be remembered by her as the smoothest guy ever… During each of those pauses in your conversation, stare at her lips. You can even start talking again, though slowly, still staring at her lips. Start slowly moving in closer. The words you’re saying at this point become irrelevant; the sexual tension in the air will be too thick.

4) Slowly move your eyes from her mouth to her eyes and back again. If she has not moved away, or shown any sign of unease, you can place a hand on her hip and bring her in closer.

5) Usually she will lean in the rest of the way and kiss you. After all, at this stage, your lips should only be an inch or two away from hers.

Congratulations!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005):

1) The first thing to make sure of is that you’re both having a good time, getting along well and physical contact has been established. It could be anything from holding hands, to a playful push on the shoulder. At this point it is important that she has touched you in some way indicating interest on her part.

2) When you feel you have reached this point, start slowing down the energy of the interaction. Start subtly moving a bit closer to her, slowing down your speech, and take longer pauses between sentences. The thought here is SUBTLE.

3) Now here’s the secret, the one move that will assure you to be remembered by her as the smoothest guy ever… During each of those pauses in your conversation, stare at her lips. You can even start talking again, though slowly, still staring at her lips. Start slowly moving in closer. The words you’re saying at this point become irrelevant; the sexual tension in the air will be too thick.

4) Slowly move your eyes from her mouth to her eyes and back again. If she has not moved away, or shown any sign of unease, you can place a hand on her hip and bring her in closer.

5) Usually she will lean in the rest of the way and kiss you. After all, at this stage, your lips should only be an inch or two away from hers.

Congratulations!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005):

im 12 too and i know that there are a lot of things a guy can do make the impression he wants 2 kiss a girl, for example, u could get up close to her, look her in the eyes, put your arm round her, kiss her on the head/nose etc. etc. try some of them

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005):

dude just hug her wone day u dondt even hahve to kiss her im 12 too and my first girlfriend said herself she was to young and

my second girlfriend wanted to makeout but before we did my parents got home and yea think as if your hugging your mom if you like girls its kool

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005):

hey im 12 and i cant blame you because its the same way with me but if ive leard any thing when you kiss her it should be because you want to not if you feel your forced to

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005):

Hey mate. Im 14 and i had my first kiss 2 days ago. I was really shy about kissing her but we jus had a quick light kiss on the lips then we started french kissing- TRUST ME MATE ITS EASY and GOOD!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005):

hey mate dont sweat there's plenty more time for that. But talk to her and get to now her if you are still to shy try a text message

works 4 me

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005):

Try just talking to her and maybe you will get to know her better and ask her if she would want a kiss, good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2005):

I'm a 12 year old guy and no offence or anything but you really should be able to hug her but kiss her...hummmm well just sit close by her (on the floor is better then in a chair) then tap on her shoulder then whisper somthing to her then move slowly but not to slow in front of the face move closer to her she should get the hint if she starts moving in closer to you then you keep on moving closer and when you get close enough kiss her.

I think this advice will deffently work for you it did for me good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2005):

take her to somewhere in alone..n talk to her..n after couple chat...touch her hair..n tell her u hair so soft..n get little close to her...and touch her hair again..look into her eyes...and then look at her lips...and if she is ready to kiss u..she won't move....n that's it..kiss her..best luck buddy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2005):

Ooo boy, you are fine. Don't worry just cuz your friends do it don't mean anything. When you kiss her its cuz you want to kiss her. Don't push it too soon. Wait until you want to. You will love it then. :) I'm a girl. I know. Best of luck to you tho.

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A reader, Sarah, writes (19 March 2005):

DearI'm Not,

Don't ever think that there is something wrong with you just because you aren't ready to do what your friends are doing.You Are NOT frigid.Just don't give in to peer pressure.Don't make your move until you're ABSOLUTELY ready.After all,that's why it's called YOUR move.

Best wishes,

Sarah

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A reader, Emma Pierce, writes (18 March 2005):

Hiya hun!! Don't worry at all, Emma's here!! I promise you, you are totally not frigid!! In my experience the guys that take their time with things like this end up far better off than the fakes who keep telling themselves they're professional.

Your mates are simply showing off, they've got a girl on their arm, wow!! Who cares, it's how you treat her what will matter to her most. It's highly likely that she will feel exactly the same way as you, and, you haven't been going out long so it's possible that you're not too comfortable with her just yet!! So don't worry at all, hunni, and if things get any worse have a chat with her about it. She's bound to understand, and likely to feel the same way, if it's any different she's not worth it!! Godd luck, keep me posted xx

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A female reader, Bev Conolly Australia +, writes (18 March 2005):

Bev Conolly agony auntHey to you!

My guess is that you're not frigid or shy... I suspect that the root of the problem is that you're just 12 years old and not completely comfortable with having a girlfriend yet.

But the good news is: Nobody is! Not at 12, anyway.

Some kids at 16 or 17 aren't comfortable with public kissing. Even lots of adults in looooong relationships (I raise my hand) aren't comfortable with gross, smoochie displays in front of other people.

So don't worry about it. Enjoy being with a girl who enjoys your company. Have good talks together, do things that are fun, meet each other at parties and dances, hold hands and share personal stories. The confidence for public displays of affection, that is, kissing and hugging, will come in time, when you're both feeling ready.

You'll roll your eyes when you read this, but you're still really, really young right now. Contrary to the lies that TV force-feeds you, age 12 isn't a time when most kids are going out with the other sex. Emotionally, most 12-year-olds aren't ready for dating and all the confusing sexual rush that goes with it. In other words, YOUR MATES ARE FAKING IT. They don't know how to act, so they're doing what they think they should be doing.

Just don't panic and think you're weird because your mates kiss their girlfriends. It's very likely that they aren't really comfortable doing it either, and they're only kissing because they think they should.

When you get pressured into behaving a certain way, only because your friends do it, you don't enjoy it.

One bit of advice I got from my Grandad, that will serve you well in every aspect of your life, is: "Don't worry about other people. They don't know what they're doing either."

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