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writes:Hiya everyone!Hope u can give me some advice as I really don't know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and we haven't had sex for 3 months. He has told me he has a problem getting errections.however I am not sure if this is true. He still gets his morning errections but he has told me he dosent like morning sex. I have brought nice lingerie but he didn't seem to notice. I asked him if he loves me and he said very much but he never tells me off his own back, I always have to ask him. He has told me he isn't very good at speaking his feelings. He is very good to me on the other hand tho, he is taking me on holiday and does my diy round my house and always calls me "his lovely". We don't go out a lot and on Saturday and Wednesdays he always goes out with his friends which I don't mind but I always have to tell him when I want to go out. I am a very social person who needs to feel very loved and I don't want to leave him but I just don't know what to feel or think. Please help me, thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Hiya
Many thanks for your advice. My boyfriend is 40. We have spoken about him going to the doctors and he has said he would but hasn't gone yet. He doesn't like to speak about personal feelings and will change the subject immediately.
Yes I do believe he is an introvert. My only prob is, is that in the past he talked occasionally about the future and babies but that hasn't been mentioned in ages. I am starting to feel very unhappy as I never imagined being in a non communiative and sexless relationship.
I really love him but do not want to resent him in the long term.
Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Hiya
Many thanks for your advice. My boyfriend is 40. We have spoken about him going to the doctors and he has said he would but hasn't gone yet. He doesn't like to speak about personal feelings and will change the subject immediately.
Yes I do believe he is an introvert. My only prob is, is that in the past he talked occasionally about the future and babies but that hasn't been mentioned in ages. I am starting to feel very unhappy as I never imagined being in a non communiative and sexless relationship.
I really love him but do not want to resent him in the long term.
Thanks again
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Something is definitely going on here. If he is close in age as you, he shouldn't have any problems with his sex drive and getting erections. If he is having problems getting erections, he may have to pay a visit to the doctor. There are medications out there that should help. In addition, if he has other health problems, like being overweight, low testosterone, diabetes or heart disease -- these can definitely affect his libido.It sounds like he is a bit of an introvert. Was he at any time the aggressor when it came to sex? I think you need to have a talk with your boyfriend about your sex life. It definitely is unusual and unless you have a conversation, it isn't going to get magically better. If anything, he should pay a visit to his doctors though for a checkup.Good luck.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (24 April 2011):
Hi - why dont you invite him home at lunchtime during work time and get busy then or have sex on the kitchen table as soon as he comes home or jump into the shower with him and give me a blow job - maybe he's just a bit bored with the same old same old - Sounds like he likes you heaps and he's a typical boy not willing to be very communicative of his feelings - I suggest you sit him down if he doesn't like any new stuff and ask him what he would like to do - possibly he wants a threesome, or some other type of fetish - whatever it is I would suggest you spice it up a little - new lingerie might not be enough.
Good luck
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