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writes:Why can't i orgasm during sex or when he licks me out or fingers me? When i'm on my own i can orgasm easily with clitoral stimulation from the pulsations in my shower head, but when it comes to my boyfriend, sex doesn't even feel that good, he is well hung and it feels nice but not nice enough to orgasm we've tried loads of different positions and everything but i still can't orgasm, even when he licks me out and fingers me i still can't orgasm. And it's not that i'm not turned on at all, because i get REALLY wet, like dripping. He's tried loads of foreplay on me to try and build me up and loads of different things to do to me but nothing works. And also it isn't because i am not comfortable because we have been together a long time now and i am soooo comfortable around him. Why can't i orgasm? please help because it is making him feel incapable of pleasing me and i don't understand why i can't climax! thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI haven't had sex with anyone else, he took my virginity and we've been together ever since. thanks for everyones help xxx
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (17 February 2013):
I might have missed it, but have you had sex with anyone else? Did you manage to have an orgasm?
I keep seeing people say most women don't orgasm, but I haven't had that experience. Some take more time than others to figure out. My wife was relatively inexperienced when we got together and wasn't able to have reliable orgasms. What ended up working for her was being on top because she can get things just right. It can happen otherwise but it's rare.
I think your boyfriend just needs practice. Since it doesn't even feel good for you, you're going to find it very difficult to come.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 February 2013):
 It's frustrating isn't it?
I have had many partners and only one could bring me to orgasm regularly.
If the ONLY way you can orgasm is the shower head... I ask you to stop using it for a while and use just your fingers... the possibility exists you are too used to the rhythm of the water and will have a hard time with human touch alone which can't duplicate the precise rhythm.
IF you can orgasm with your hands... then it's just a matter of working with your bf for him to learn the rhythm and speed and pressure and changes....
for example, many times just before a woman orgasms her clitoris retracts into her body... and many men react to that and either let up or stop.. they don't realize that's the "precum" code for their lady...
the way to teach him is if you can do it yourself with your hands you can show him and talk him through it... first time he can rest his hand on yours to learn speed and get the feel for it.... next time his hand on the bottom and let him try... then when you need to adjust use your words and your hand to show and tell him what you need...
this is at least a way to see if you can have an orgasm with him....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): Can you orgasm using only your fingers?
If so just show him how, if not then just figure out how and then show him. Once he knows the right movement and pressure he'll be able to do that with his tongue too and when having sex you can just stimulate your clit and bring yourself to orgasm during sex too that way.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Why don't you try getting a vibrator for the two of you to use together?
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