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writes:Nice guys finish last or at least thats how I see it, The beautiful women are attracted to the D bag guys. I am the typical nice guy I think I don't talk about people behind there backs and am usually honest. The girls I like only like me as a friend and I have noticed the guys they are more sexually attracted to are the guys who kinda act like players and are full of themselves. From my other posts I have gotten reply's saying I should tease these girls a little bit and act more confident but I really don't know what to say because I am afraid of being mean and I don't want to mess up my friendship. So my question is how should I tease girls I guess and how can I be more confident football was sorta helping but I quit because it wasn't giving me the adrenalin rush I was wanting. So when these girls asked me why I quit I was like "I am exciting so I do spontaneous things to keep it interesting" they laughed so they at least know I am funny. My other problem is I can talk to pretty much anyone but there is like one girl in particular that really screws me up, when she walks into the room I start freaking out like my heart slows down and I start to feel really nervous. Does anyone know what this is I can't stand it I want to talk to this girl and be smooth but im not able to and its not fair to her. I do have an athletic body I have a six pack legit that you can see and people have commented on it haha so I can sorta brag to these girls saying I could easily be a model and the situation from the Jersey Shore would be envious of my body... that got a good rise out of them they were like I can't believe you just said that haha. I am the nice guy that never puts anyone down and I try my best to talk to everyone so they weren't expecting me out of no where to brag about my body but they liked it so maybe being a little full of myself will help because I will have the confidence I need. Thanks for the help
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reader, justfriends +, writes (28 September 2010):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for the responses I appreciate it so much. I have talked to her several times in person she is always very nice and won't say that she notices that Im shy even know I can tell she thinks it. I guess were sorta friends cause I can ask her questions and stuff and she can ask me questions. anyway we vid chatted a little while ago and not like what some people might think I didn't try anything with her even know I did think she looked amazing just like she does everyday. I won't change myself cause I don't like to be fake and put on an act and I agree 100% with the response saying that these girls might not be able to tell the difference right now. Just likeWhatEverMovesThee's response I feel the same way you described I probably turn red when I talk to her/feel like the king of the world. I went to a car show and a guy said he would trade his girlfriend for this lamborghini and I laughed a little but I told my friend and he said would you trade this girl I am trying to impress for the car I said I would trade the car and everything I have for her. So I think I really care about her I just need to work on my confidence a little bit more. Once again thanks for all the help 5 stars for everyone
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 But the girl yoou get will be worth the wait!
Do you ever talk to this girl?
If she has and you have a facebook you can talk cyberly first to get used to talking to her, so she doesnt think your uninteresting or shy. Then after that talking in person will still be dawnting but she will know what your like. Then you will get closer etc etc.
If you need any help mail me, im good with this kind of thing :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 September 2010):
 I find that girls are attracted to the jerky guys at your age because we can't tell the difference between confidence and arrogant/cocky. When you get older, if you can develop a bit of confidence, girls will be all for the nice guy.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 September 2010):
I find that girls are attracted to the jerky guys at your age because we can't tell the difference between confidence and arrogant/cocky. When you get older, if you can develop a bit of confidence, girls will be all for the nice guy.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (25 September 2010):
 A little more confidence works wonders but careful that it doesnt go into plain, old conceit! That would attract no girls or girls with "I love jerks" written all over them. Basically, use this confidence to get a girl's attention. Wouldn't hurt to walk (in places where its allowed) shirtless ;) you have a crush on the girl you mentioned and who cares if you can't be smooth? When guys are too smooth, I get suspicious. Smooth sometimes equals idiot player. When they're nervous around me, I think it's SO CUTE and it makes me feel like I'm pretty, desirable. Don't change who are you are though! Ok, you can joke around, brag a little but don't forget you're a nice guy whose not out to hurt! Probably, theres a girl crushing on you. She laughs the hardest at your jokes, touches you most, ask you questions OR is so quiet, you hardly notice her, turns red when you look too long or avoids eye contact...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Be yourself Be yourself Be yourself. I too am a NICE guy, always have been, do not compete, do not show off, do not act cool, and it was tough when I was younger. Girls want status and want to hang out with the guys that seem to have status. BUT, when they want to marry, when they want a REAL relationship, they want a guy like YOU and me. I went through all that too. But I am married and while I am pretty ordinary looking, my wife is GORGEOUS, and we enjoy the hottest sex on earth, and I love her dearly. This is what life is about.
Be Yourself.
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