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writes:Ugh, So My boyfriend of 3 1/2 months broke up with me a week ago. I've been either really happy or really upset since then.Everyone keeps telling me that he was the one that made the mistake of dumping me and everything.I don't know what to do, i have to see him everyday and seeing him kills me, but i cant change the fact that i have to see him, we go to school together.In the beginning of the breakup he seemed fine, flirting and everything. but now every time i see him, he doesn't seem happy. and i keep wondering if its because he misses me. we tried talking and i acted like nothing happened but he kept avoiding me and everything.he said the reason for the break up was that he didnt feel we connected anymore but then one of my friends who is his friend to told me he just didnt like my anymore, i dont see how that is since a few days before the break up, he told me he loved me.everyone keeps telling me to move on from him too but i find it so hard to just forget about him.what do you think I should do? and any advice on whether i should wait and see if he wants to go back out or should i just move on?... also, any tips on moving on from someone you have to see everyday and really want to be friends with.... it hurts more not having him in my life than it does having him in it.thanks for any help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 April 2010):
Move on. You need to avoid him, cut contact as much as possible and get back out there with friends and focus on yourself. Don't waste time thinking that he loves you or that he will come back. He won't.
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (26 April 2010):
Sadly, this will not be the last time in your life that this happens to you - it is the risk we take when we start to have feelings for someone - that they will reject us and we will be hurt and alone.
He's made it clear of his position - if he wanted to be still dating you, he would be. He just decided that the relationship was not for him.
I would just respect that, treat him like any other guy at school, neither over friendly nor overly cold, and get on with your own friends.
In time, your hurt may lessen and the situation may enable a friendship to be rekindled, but in the meantime, like your friends say, you just have to learn to move on.
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