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writes:My wife of 14 years recently announced that she is no longer in love with, then i found out she had been texting and spending alot of time with a guy from work, now 3 months later she has admitted to sleeping with him once. Can our marriage get over this as i am willing to get through it but she is saying she's not sure if there is anything to save anymore...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): I'm so sorry you're going through this, but the reality is that you can't force somebody to love you. Your wife has made it crystal clear that she has no desire to fix the marriage. The only thing you can do is move on. It won't be easy since it's been 14 years, but there's somebody better out there for you. Lots of luck.
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reader, SexKitten69 +, writes (6 March 2007):
 Hi there, i can understand that you must be quite upset. The thing that you have to ask yorself is if you try the relationship again if the problem will occur again.
You cannot force someone to love you and that in itself hurts.
I think that your wife has made up her mind about what she wants from her life and as harsh as it may sound you're not included in her plans.
My advise would be to have a chat about you future together as a couple and talk about where you wants to be a few years down the line.
Please remember that you can't force her to stay and that there are plenty of people out there!
Get to the pub, have a few drinks and woo the ladies, you never know if your wife finds out she may reconsider her actions...... Play her at her own game!! : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): A 14 year marriage is a lot but if your wife isn't in love with you anymore, has slept with another guy from work and after telling you about it then feels that there is no point trying to save your marriage then there is nothing you can do. You could try and tell her that you want to work on your marriage and are willing to forgive her for her affair but it doesn't mean that she'll agree to it.
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