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female
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writes:I had posted a question a few days ago concerning a problem I am having with my boyfriend...since hunting season started in our area he has become distant, distracted, and pretty mean towards me. He's an avid hunter and doesn't want to be bothered by me right now. We got into a little argument 3 days ago, and I haven't heard from him since. The last text I got from him said he didn't have time for me currently and that he was too busy with work...(he would have added "hunting", but he's not a complete idiot.) I haven't heard from him since. Just so anyone who answers doesn't think he's a complete monster, he was very loving and attentive before hunting season started. He makes me very happy overall. But since hunting season has started he hasn't talked to me much and has even told me he doesn't have anything to say to me anymore. We've been together for several months, and he had plenty to talk to me about before the stupid season started and he turned into a caveman. It's just amazing that someone can be everything I've ever wanted in someone, and I finally felt like I was in a relationship that was worth building, and he turned into someone that hurts and ignores me. The sad thing is when hunting season is over he will go back to normal, but who knows whether I will still be around by that point. Anyways, my question is how long should I give him? It's been three days of complete silence from his end. I called him once out of necessity and he didn't pick up. I sent him two texts, also out of necessity. (I picked up a birthday present for him to give to his best friend...in two days...) He can't just put everything on hold while he and his hunting goons run around in the woods all week (which he used up vacation time for...another thing that was going to go towards a summer trip next year, but a friend was coming this week so he decided to burn up the remaining vacation he had that was supposed to go to us...he's going on a bear hunt in Canada in the spring so that was first priority for his vacation.)Finally out of complete frustration I sent him a text an hour ago, telling him if I didn't hear from him by Friday, the day after his friends go home, that I was going to assume we were broken up and I was going to move on, and go to his house to pick up my belongings and drop off his. I don't think that was unreasonable. A friend told me not to give him ultimatums, but hell, I deserve better than this. I will let him enjoy his time with his friends and I hope he has a good time, but he needs to realize that I am still here and that this isn't going to be acceptable in the future. I don't mind the hunting. I mind the inconsiderateness and the isolation he has been handing me. I'm perfectly satisfied with a quick phone call and a couple hours of his time. I have a busy life too with a job and a kid. I know what it's like to be busy. But I've always made it a point to contact him to let him know I was still alive, and I made sure I had a night or two a week to give him. So how long should I give him? Should I say "screw you" now and dump him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): So he's not a monster...Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde perhaps. In any event maybe u should wait it out...this is obviously what u want so I concur. Just give him a few weeks or how ever long it take him to wrap up the season. Best wishes.
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