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writes: My younger sister always makes plays for my boyfriends. She is now 22 and about to get engaged, but whenever I bring a date or guy I am seeing around she gets all googly-eyed and starts flirting with him like crazy. She even hooked up with one of my ex's in college. I am worried that down the road, if we both get married, she will try to make a play for my husband. Help!!! How do I put an end to this?
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Obviously your sister has pretty low self esteem if she feels the need to flirt with your boyfriends.
Doesn't she have any boyfriends of her own?
It sounds like she loves the attention and is just trying to be competitive with you.
I wouldn't let her get to you because she actually could prove a valuable asset in determining which men you bring home are losers and cheats and which ones are loyal and faithful to you.
I would just ignore her because chances are she probably gets a bit of a kick when she knows you are upset or jealous so if you don't give her any reaction hopefully the flirting will not be as fun for her.
I wouldn't be surprised as well if any decent guy thinks that your sister is a bit of tart and whilst her flirting may be cute will probably just see straight through her and probably not really have much respect for her.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (19 June 2006):
Obviously your sister has pretty low self esteem if she feels the need to flirt with your boyfriends.
Doesn't she have any boyfriends of her own?
It sounds like she loves the attention and is just trying to be competitive with you.
I wouldn't let her get to you because she actually could prove a valuable asset in determining which men you bring home are losers and cheats and which ones are loyal and faithful to you.
I would just ignore her because chances are she probably gets a bit of a kick when she knows you are upset or jealous so if you don't give her any reaction hopefully the flirting will not be as fun for her.
I wouldn't be surprised as well if any decent guy thinks that your sister is a bit of tart and whilst her flirting may be cute will probably just see straight through her and probably not really have much respect for her.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Yeah, any guy you think who might be "the one" have him pass the sister test. Don't let her antics get you down, have some fun with it. Maybe even get a guy to help you set her up one time just for laughs, you know, really act outrageous when she starts flirting with him. Could be a hilarious evening!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Your sister must be feeling deeply insecure to need to seek out such attention from your suitors. You should feel sorry for her really because of her need to flirt uncontrollably with people who should be off limits. She lacks self control, respect for her family and maturity. BUT don't worry about it as you cannot control other people. Use this to your advantage! It shouldn't matter if she flirts herself to death with your fella's - it is how they respond to it that is REALLY important. Lets face it, if you have a decent man then he won't flirt back, and will see her for what she is. If he is resistant to her then it means he is less likely to cheat on you with other women. Whats more, by the time you marry someone you will know them really well (hopefully) and trust them enough to know that they won't jump into bed with your sister at the earliest opportunity. You really have to be self confident and think more of yourself - this is not a question of your sister stealing your boyfriends, this is a question of you ditching the losers (like your ex) and finding someone who is special for you.
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