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My sister in law is cheating because I showed her how to use the internet! How do I stop this?

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Question - (24 January 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 24 January 2015)
A male United States age 41-50, *ahless writes:

Let me start out by saying a love my little nephews and brother to death and would do anything for them.I a very sensitive person and consistently asking people are they mad at me.

I feel so bad and it's totally my fault that their mom is cheating on my brother,this has me crying every time i think about it, i feel i've destroyed my nephews from having a mom and dad.I basically taught my sister in law about computers and facebook but i didn't think she would use it as a tool to cheat on my brother.I haven't told him because i know it would crush their family and again i would cause my nephews from having a proper mom and dad which hurts my heart.

I know she is cheating because some guy posted a picture of her and stated i love my baby and on another stated this is the most prettiest woman in the world to me.I've also seem messages from dozens of guys on page stating they want blowjobs from her and they would like to hook up with her.Im thinking about deleting her page.

What can i do because this seems to be eating up my soul everyday.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (24 January 2015):

chigirl agony auntHow can you delete her page? I don't get this. If she's on facebook and doing all this, then it's in the wide open for her husband to see it himself. If it's on some page you control, and this is why you can see all she does, then either you've violated her privacy, or she's incredibly stupid. Anyway, tell her you know about it. But don't say a word to anyone else, because it's their business.

You didn't make her cheat. She's either a cheater by her own doing, or she's not. That has nothing to do with you. She doesn't cheat just because she now has the opportunity to, cheaters find opportunities wherever they are. If she's a cheater then I promise you, she'd cheat whether or not you showed her how to use facebook.

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A female reader, Midnight Shadow United Kingdom +, writes (24 January 2015):

Midnight Shadow agony auntTake snapshots of it as proof; your brother won't believe you if you have to tell him and have no proof.

Your nephews will still have proper parents, just not necessarily married ones. It's better that parents are happy and separated, than unhappily together; children pick up on it and it affects them more (usually) if it's badly "hidden".

Like Honeypie, I know it's not your fault and you should get evidence, tell her to stop and show your brother the evidence if she doesn't.

You also might want to see a therapist; it's unhealthy to think you're always doing something wrong or making someone mad.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2015):

Yeah, its really not your fault. She is an adult and is capable of making her own decisions.

You could also blame the internet for causing her to cheat, too. Better just cancel their internet account, too, just to be safe.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 January 2015):

Honeypie agony auntOK, first of.. SHE made the choice to cheat. YOU didn't MAKE her cheat.

Secondly, I would tell her if she doesn't CUT the crap on the internet, delete the FB page and TALK to your brother so he knows what's up YOU will TALK to your brother.

THIS is NOT your fault.

It's like saying because I'm teaching my brother in law to shot (just an example) it's my fault if he DECIDED to shot and kill someone?

YOU are not responsible for HER actions, SHE needs to be!

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