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writes:My fiance doesn't want sex with me anymore...Please help! My fiance doesn't want sex with me anymore. She and I are both young and she is with child. She has no energy, she sits around the house all day, sleeps till after noon, with no job. I try to have some type of sexual relations with her but it seems she is not interested. I love her, but I am also thinking how is it going to be when we get married. I am completely frustrated. What do I need to do? Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): I am pregnant and not in mood at all for sex - my body kind of went "NOOOOOOOOO"! lol Sorry bud, but if you want to be intimate with your lady, try some non sexual activities to show you care e.g. rub her feet or back, or make her dinner. You can still be close and bonded without the sex right now - just kind her time, her body is all over the place right now. And hey, if you are not getting any then rope in mr handy to help you out :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): She IS pregnant after allshe Using most of her energy to support the child. Aslo some women when pregnant are NOT on the mood for sex. Try something onyour own *wink wink*
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (9 May 2010):
 Depending how far gone she is, your fiance probably feels like she has an elephant stuck in her tummy.
Would that make YOU feel like having sex?
Being pregnant is hard. It drains you of energy, because someone else is taking all the nutrients out of your body. Her blood is circulating in both her and the baby. Its doing the work of two people.
She feels fat, ugly, tired, scared, she may be worried you think she is no longer desirable. Her back probably hurts -you try carrying an extra couple of pounds hanging from your stomach - and it will be exceptionally difficult to even lie down, let alone move or get up.
She may even find sex painful - remember where the baby will eventually come out! The vagina is a direct path to your baby inside her!!! There is an awful lot of pressure from fluids, and baby pressing down on her cervix, her bladder and her internal organs. Thats why pregnant ladies need to wee a lot. Imagine someone sqeezing and pushing your insides, then imagine someone else thrusting and pushing from the other end as well! Not fun!
She might also be worried that having sex could harm the baby. Some women imagine that their baby can see their husbands penis thrusting at them, and it causes all sorts of mental anguish. Pregnant women are irrational and hormonal. Thats part of the process.
She will only be pregnant for NINE months. Come on, give the woman a break! You are the one that got her pregnant in the first place, so dont moan about not getting it now.
Once she settles down, your sex life will return. BUT have a little patience! If you loved her then you would wait, as she is caring for and carrying YOUR child. She is supposed to be the woman you love, she isnt just a sex machine for you. What would you do if your penis suddenly fell off? Do you think she would get frustrated with you because you couldnt have sex with her, would she blame YOU for something you couldnt control?
Ease up on her, love her, treat her like a princess and make her feel loved.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (9 May 2010):
 She can't help it! It's hormonal! Let her get all the rest she needs. Carrying a baby for nine months is NO WALK IN THE PARK!
Instead of pressuring her to have sex, you should be pampering her with your love! This isn't a game! This is a real "adult" situation! Time to grow up!
Her sex drive will come back gradually after the baby is born. She may still be exhausted from caring for the baby, but that's where you come in to the picture....show her that you want to help her! Show her how much you love her. Now and after the birth.
You're going to be a dad...so prepare yourself for it!
Good Luck!
~BG~
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 May 2010):
Umm she's pregnant, get a grip. Yes, pregnant women sleep a lot. That cute little baby she has in her body is considered a parasite to her body and takes from her what it doesn't have. Leave her alone and quit acting like such a child...she doesn't need another one to take care of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): SHE IS PREGNANT!!! thats why! wait it out, her hormones will change and she wont be able to keep her hands off of you... also shes carrying your child, you should love her enough to put up with anything while she is pregnant! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): Well this is common when women are pregnant. I didn't want to have sex with my husband when I was pregnant because it was uncomfortable and hurt. She might just be drained of energy. You should first try and talk to her! Tell her you are frustrated with the current situation.
Then on a evening you have off take her out to do something fun! Go see a movie and have a romantic dinner. Then seduce her make her feel sexy. Sometimes a pregnant woman might just feel ugly or huge! Let her know you still find her beautiful and for her not to let herself go!
I don't mean to burst your bubble but it is probably going to get worse when you get married. Babies are a handful and if shes drained right now she will be even more drained when the baby comes. You probably will be too the first few months when the baby gets here. You two just have to make time for romance and passion. Good luck hope things get better!
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