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writes:Hi, Right, my problem that I am struggling with at the moment is that my partner of 1 year who I love so much fancies another woman and yes I know this is normal for people to fancy others as long as nothing comes of it but my partner is constantly texting this other woman and I had a glimpse of a text my partner was sending last night and I read... "I can't stop thinking about you!" that is the bit of the text I saw to the girl, I questioned my partner about this and she said that yeh she does fancy this other girl and the other girl fancies my partner also but they can't do anything about it coz my partner apparently loves me and wants to marry me and this other girl is in a relationship also, and she also said she is just thinking about her as in curiosity. That just makes me feel like I am holding them back from getting together...I don't know what to do... please help me!!! thank you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): If she loves you sooooo much then she'd better stop texting/talking/seeing that other girl. Don't put up with any crap and tell her it' time to make a choice, no more riding the fence and don't back down. Time is something you can't get back and there's no use wasting it on someone who isn't putting you #1. Good luck and stay strong :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): I think you should be worried and I don't think that this is normal and if he truly loved you he wouldn't be texting another woman telling her he missed her. I would tell him to take a hike!! One day he will find a girl to fancy that is single and than see what happens....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): i think you need to be careful, you dont want to seem like a controlling person. if there isnt anything between them then myabe they will end up as friends and she may not tolerate you telling her who she can and cant be friends with.
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 I think you should express this worry to your partner. tell her to put herself in your situation and ask her how she would feel but in a non threatening way. ask to go and meet her, relieve the curiosity of your partner. and then you can tell if something is going on between them. ultimately if your partner denies everything then its up to you and how much you trust what she says. if your not satisfied with the way things work out then its your call. tell her you have lost her trust and end it?
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