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My online guy wants to meet me...I don't know what to do.

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Question - (31 October 2006) 9 Answers - (Newest, 19 January 2007)
A female , *razy-green writes:

i have been talking to a guy on MSN for about 2 weeks we seem to really connect and he says he can't get me out of his head and he really likes me, he also has hinted about meeting in person but hasn't put any pressure on 16 and dont know what to do..should i just keep our relationship on up with him..or block him and forget he even!

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A female reader, CrazyChavBaby +, writes (19 January 2007):

Right, loads of girls and guys meet up over the internet and most of them are not who they say they are. What i am saying is he might not be who he says he is u might have seen pics and that but that could be anyone. i think you should not meet up with him. some one i know was in your position but she had been speaking to him for about 6 months and then for another 3 months on the phone she had seen him on webcam and everything she went to see him and he raped her she is still getting over it so please listen i know because of what happened to her. i think you should block him because he would try and push u into meeting him giving it time. u was fine with out you will be again. Good luck and Stay Safe xx

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A female reader, loquit21 +, writes (2 November 2006):

you have to go with your gut.....but if you think he is safe follow a few basic rules

Meet him in a public place

Meet him somewhere you're girlfriends can meet YOU. This way you have a backup plan...and if he turns out to be a weirdo you can hang out with them until he has cleared the scene

Also, make sure you give his name and number to a good freind or never know what could happen and that way someone knows exactly who you were with.

Be safe and good luck!

:) Karen

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A female reader, Lemonpixie United States +, writes (2 November 2006):

Lemonpixie agony auntWell when i was 16 i met up up with someone on the net... but i went with a group of my friends, met in a public place, and i had been talking to this guy for 6 months. We are still good friends and we hang out all the time... but that doesnt mean there are creepy guys out there too. I have a friend who was raped when she met up with a guy on the net, she was terrified and lucky to escape with her life, she had only talked to the guy for a month and went alone to meet him. BIG MISTAKE! If he really likes you he can wait. I suggest meeting at a mall, or crowded public area. Take your own car, and stay in public throughout the whole date. If you insist on going alone at least let a friend know where youll be and have them call you an hour after you are set to meet up. It's just as risky as meeting some guy at a bar or club, but you can never trust the internet. Whatever you do dont let him drive you anywhere on the first or second date.

Good luck, be safe... let us all know how it goes!

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A female reader, crazy-green +, writes (1 November 2006):

crazy-green is verified as being by the original poster of the question

crazy-green agony auntcheers for all your advice! its really good to hear personal not going to meet him anytime soon because its not safe..but i will still chat to him on MSN

thanks agen u lot!


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A female reader, stina United States +, writes (1 November 2006):

stina agony auntHi Crazy-Green,

There are a lot of weirdos on the internet. Before you meet up with this person, I suggest finding out more about him. But that's assuming he's telling you the truth about himself - his name, age, etc. Personally, I wouldn't meet him. But if you still decide you want to, I would meet him in a VERY public place and take at least two or three friends (who are guys!). Seriously - you don't know who you will actually be meeting.

Like I've metioned in other posts, I have been in your same situation. The guy lied to me - told me he had leukemia - it made me feel bad for him so I talked with him out of pity. Turns out he was 51, was not sick w/ leukemia, was deported from England (b/c of stalking someone else) and living in the US, found out where I lived and threatened to hurt my family if I didn't meet him in New Mexico. He had a partner who was in Brazil. God only knows what would have happened to me unless I called the police (they thought he was caught up in the white slavery ring). Don't let the same thing happen to you!

Okay - sorry for that ramble. I really *hate* making posts into a story about me, but I really think this is one that you might gain something from.

Take care.

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A male reader, Dazzerg United Kingdom +, writes (1 November 2006):

Dazzerg agony auntI would agree that 2 weeks is too soon, that you should talk on the phone first and generally establish a much closer relationship. One thing that you could also do, if you know his full name, is to Google him which might provide a bit more information. If he is genuine he shouldn't mind this (i speak as somebody who has been 'Googled' before).

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A female reader, CrazyChavBaby +, writes (1 November 2006):

Dont go meet him. even tho u myt connect on msn dat is nuffin tink about it all u know is what he has told u. the reason i am sayin not to go and meet him is cos he could b anyone ya get me? he could be a 56 year old man just wantin a young lass and i dont wanna scare ya but it has happend b4 & it could happpen 2 u. u may neva c ya family or friends agen if u go and meet him. what ever u do dont go on ya own. and u may b thinkin it wont happen to me. well it has happend to my best friend and i lost her from a man meeting her thro da internet and the next time i saw her was at her funeral. Now it can happen to u i really dont wanna scare u but its da truth.

Good Luck Hunny and just listen to what ive told u

All me love


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A female reader, AskGeorgina +, writes (31 October 2006):

Hi there, from personal experience I think 2 weeks is a bit too soon babes. Have u had a pic from this guy, spoke to him via phone or anything? Bear in mind this could be anyone and may or may not be who he sys he is. You dont have to block him or anything, carry on chatting and get to know one another a bit more. Even tho he says ur on his mind all the time u have 2 bear in mind u have only known each other for 2 weeks. Just take ur time and see how it goes. If u do decide to go tho PLEASE be careful. All the best in whatever u decide.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006):

two weeks is abit to soon deary..u neva sed how old he was? jus wondering why he is so eager to meet u? i kno u hit it off..but 2 weeks is too soon..i reckon u shud get to know him betta..start off with phone calls or sumthing..find out if he lives locally and if any of ur mates know him...and if u do decide to meet him..take a freind with u,take a phone, and let sumone know where u will be going, just in case..stay safe...good luck..freind x

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