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My new boyfriend wants me to shave EVERYWHERE!

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Question - (29 March 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2016)
A female South Africa age 22-25, anonymous writes:

helo. My new boyfriend is 8 years older than me, we met on a dating site (i didn't mean to join the site i was only there for fun so we met). He is muscular, very smart, very clean, handy, hygienic but what i find odd is he doesn't like hair. He shaves every area of his body, he always looks clean and sharp, i don't shave all the time.No worries, thing is he also wants me to shave, do guys care about that? Or is he just trying to get me to look like a magazine girl because that is the last thing i want to do. I love him but i get an odd feeling about this. I prefer natural, i dont even twiz my eyebrows only a trim once in a while (during special events) becoz i love them the way God made them. What do you think he is up to?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 March 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntHe obviously doesn't like hair so he has asked you to shave, it is a fair enough question to ask, but if you would rather not then just tell him, no sorry I am the way I am. Simple. If he doesn't like it well then he knows where the door is. You should never change for anybody, unless off course it is something you want as well.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (29 March 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntWhy are you dating a guy if you can't ask him this question? You said you met him on a dating site you didn't mean to be on, but then suddenly you're dating him? All a bit odd. I'm a little concerned for you that you don't seem to be able to determine for yourself what works for you.

If you don't want to shave everywhere, you don't have to shave everywhere. Perhaps this gentleman you "accidentally" started dating might prefer no hair, but that doesn't mean that you have to change for him.

If I were you, I would just let him know that you are happy with your hair the way it is, and you don't intend to change it. If he is unhappy with that, then he'll have to decide for himself if that works for him.

Some guys will care about hair, some guys won't. The thing I want to encourage you to do is to decide for yourself what works for you.

And please don't just go along with the random whims of some guy you met on a dating site you didn't intend to be on. Because that would suggest that you really aren't mature enough yet to be on a dating site.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (29 March 2016):

Denizen agony auntStyles change and from what I hear I think they are moving away from full Brazilian. To my mind it is like infantalising a woman to remove all hair. Grown up women have hair. Men are usually grateful when you have a bit of a tidy up down there. So there is probably a happy medium that you can both accept.

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