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writes:My sister has been with her boyfriend for about five months now and ever since they have got together there have been family arguments over it because my mother doesn't like him for different reasons. I have stuck by my mother through it all for a while now, but recently I went to my Aunt's wedding anniversary and my mother didn't go because she is not talking to her sister. I got a lift down to my Aunt's with my sister and her boyfriend--when my mother found out, she said she was finished with me...all because I got a lift! She didn't want me to come home that night, so I slept at my grandmother's and I went home the next day. She told me that she didn't want anything to do with me. I'm sick of all of it--what can I do? My family is such a mess.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Give your mum some time to calm down then go round and chat to her and explain that who your sister's boyfriend is isn't your fault.
My 18 year old sister is dating a right bum at the moment and she's being pulled in to his ways. I gave up fighting her over him because what I say isn't going to make a blind bit of difference to her. All she can see is him. Also explain to your mum you aren't this guy's number one fan either.
All families are messed up in some way. It's part of what families are. And our parents are the way they are because they care. Your mum is probably worried that you'll end up befriending your sister's boyfriend and joining the liking him camp, so she's pushed you away.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): It sounds like your mother has control issues. If possible stay with your grandmother until you can get your own place. Tell your mother that until she can act like a reasonable adult that you will not have anything to do with he ether. Maybe that will serve as a wake up call to her that her controlling actions must end. Hopefully she'll realize that she will soon find herself all alone if she continues behaving in this manner and change. Good luck.
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reader, dr jo +, writes (24 June 2007):
hi
tell your mum that she shouldn't be angry at you its your sisters boyfriend and she shouldn't get every one else down too
hope it helps
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