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writes:I need help with this problem. My girlfriend is moving in with me and she is telling me one way or another to get rid of all my home contents left from my last marriage. That means all furniture from the bedroom, TV room, all the kitchen contents, and some of my clothes. But she is bringing in all her stuff regardless if I like them or not. Her excuse is that I have no taste in stuff, even though all my furniture (and others) is/are from a very expensive range.I feel that she wants to erase my past and my history. All that I have worked for has to be sold or Gotten rid of.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 if ur gf is movin into ur house then she must respect your things. those items represent ur life n everything u have worked for and it would be unrealistic to expect u to part with those on her demand. this controlling nature is indicative of insecurities and i think u need to calmly explain that she is being unreasonable and if she wants to become a bigger part of ur life then she has to accept ur life, past present and future. good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): The feeling of insecurity. She feels threatened by your old memories, furniture and all. They're just objects, true memories are those unpalpable and you keep them right in your heart. You should make her understand you can't out of the blue replace your things, because you're used to them, or... let her take control. No, wouldn't be fair.
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reader, myp  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 I agree with both dr jo and dv1, however it could be shes trying to erase the reminders, of your ex wife.
No woman wants to sleep in the bed her boyfriend and hs ex wife had there wedding nuptials in ya know. The thing is, is that when she moves in you might own the house but shell be living there making it her home. You guys should compromise and choose the pieces that each of you cant live without, and decorate the rest TOGETHER.
best of luck
-Myesha
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 June 2007):
 She's coming into YOUR house. If she wants you to get rid of your stuff from your house, tell her not to bother moving in!!
DV1
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (24 June 2007):
Hey!The first thing to go , if it were me, would be the Gf. She want's to put a ring in you nose early on, as I see it. So be a fool and do what she wants,and if she doesn't hang around too long, hope you got lots of $$$$$$$.
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reader, dr jo +, writes (24 June 2007):
you should not have to erase your history because your girlfriend tells you to tell her its your place and you dont have to change it
hope this helps jo
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