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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,for the last one year i have been attracted towards my Boss. I am unmarried 28 Y female and he is 35 Y married male. He is also attracted towards me. He has asked me for sexual relations with him without any emotional involvement.He never forces me. He said if i am okay with this type of relation and then he will move forward. I also don't want to disturb his wife.On one side i think it is morally wrong , but on other side i get tempted to such an offer of having sex with someone with very good personality.What should i do?
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reader, leni  +, writes (3 December 2008):
what makes you think you have any right here? he is married. he is someone's husband. that means out of bounds.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): OMG, I totally agree with everyone else, this guy is a sleeaze you could end up with a lot more than your feelings being hurt, YES he does not care, which means he has probably done it before and YES he could have any STD that exists, do not go near him under any circumstances as has been said he could even have Aids and you would never know.This is horrible but people catch diseases from people they sleep with or carry out any sex act with, you do not know his sexual history, do not do this you may lose more than you morality, you may lose your life, and that may only be if his wife finds out, THIS one spells TROUBLE..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): What I think she meant by good personality was his good looks.
A snake looks good.But its still a snake.your boss sounds like one.He is full of poison.
At 28 you are unmarried.Do you know what an Indian guy values most in his wife?Her virginity.
You have two options.
1.Sleep with your boss:
Repercussions:
1.End up with AIDS.A guy who slept around with out
emotional attachment is definitely bound to have
STD's
2.There is no news that remains secret in an Indian
office.Every one starts looking at you like a
slut.Other Indian guys would follow in line to ask
for "it".Imagining the scenario makes me want to
puke.I hope you are feeling the same way too.
3.Things will get so worse that you will have to give
up your job.Your reputation precedes you where ever
you go.So you will be facing the same problem in
your new job as well.
2.Not sleep with the jackass:
1.You get to give your husband the gift of your
virginity and there by have a peaceful married life
2.You don't walk around with the guilt of stealing
something that doesn't belong to you.I cannot help
feeling sorry for his poor wife.
3.You keep your integrity and name intact.You walk
around with your head held high.
Its only our morals and ethics that form a thin line
that prevents humans from becoming animals.
Self control is very essential for a human being.Everyone gets tempted.Its what we do about the temptation that makes us what we are at the end of the day.I hope you make the right choice and choose happiness in your life.
Next time your boss asks you for sex,look at him in the eye and say,"I would like to discuss it with your wife first.".That snake will slither away never to bother you again.
All the Best.Keep us posted.
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female
reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 This guy has chutzpah. What's chutzpah? My favorite definition is that this is the quality of a man, who, having murdered his parents, asks for the mercy of the court on the grounds that he is an orphan.
He doesn't have a good personality. He might be charming and sexy, but he lacks morals, respect for his wife and his marriage vows, and on top of that, is pressuring you, subtly but it's still pressure, into giving him your sexual favors just because he happens to be your boss. So he actually is a creep. A charming and sexy creep, but the operative word here is CREEP.
Please put yourself in his wife's shoes and imagine how she'll feel if she found out he was exposing her, without her knowledge or consent, to sexually transmitted diseases. Yes, I know, you don't have any STDs, but you don't know that he doesn't, as I expect he's cheated before. You never know who he's slept with, and what infections he's been exposed to.
I'd say "no", let him know that if he fires you, that you'll tell his wife he wants to cheat on her. Then I'd start looking for a new job anyway. Who wants to work with a creep?
Take care of yourself.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): O.K., so he's Asking you, if He can Use You, for sexual favors. Believe me, this is Not a Compliment. He's treating you like a...please excuse my language...whore. You are worth So much more than that! This is a road to depression. I think you need to get out more, and pray to meet a man who wants Only you. take care.
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female
reader, Teacake +, writes (3 December 2008):
 He wants you to have sex with him without anything in return? That's a good personality, as lazyguy said. LOL
You think its wrong? You KNOW its wrong and of course the wife will be upset. You also take the chance of loosing your job the minute something goes wrong.
DO you have laws in your country that you can report him and not loose your job? Will you loose your job if you say no to him? He is obviously a very selfish man and is out for himself. He is putting you in the position of loosing your job if you do or if you don't.
Keep a record of what is going on and talk to others about this so you have evidence in case he tries to fire you.
This is not a very nice man in any way and I feel sorry for his wife. You can do so much better than this creep!!!!
What ever spell you are under about this guy is not based on reality at all. Open your eyes. He probably has cheated many times before.
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 December 2008):
 What's a Y female and a Y male? As far as the offer goes, why don't you call the wife and see if this activity will "disturb" her?
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Why would you even consider it? You want a raise? SLEEP YOUR WAY TO THE TOP! I bet you'll feel proud of yourself in the end for ruining a marriage.I think you need a personality.
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male
reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Cheating on your wife is a sign of a good personality?
If I beat mine, do I get a sainthood?
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