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writes:My boyfriend and i have been in a long distnce relationship for almost 2 years now. We hardly get to see each other. And we both get up set at each other for that. Recently he told me he has another girlfriend just to occupy until we move in together. They starting dating around 7 months ago. I am very upset because this is technically cheating. They havent slept together, so he told me. But he says she loves him and he kinda loves her back. Now all of a sudden i feel like a third wheel because she lives by him and they always meet up to hang and and the stuff that we are supposed to be doing. So now i know that when or if we do move in together he will not like or not be use to my ways. I dont know what to do. Should i break up with him so he can be happy? Or should i fight for whats mine? Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 June 2010):
He's not yours in the slightest. There is no way that a man who loved you would do this. He's a cheat, and you can do better. Dump him.
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reader, raiders +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Sorry to tell you this but he is not yours, you are far and if he is messing around there is no way you will know since you can only go by what he tells you.
Don't worry if he will be happy if you step away, instead think if you are willing to share your man are you going to be happy.
If he sees her and they are starting to develop feelings for each other its going to be hard for you to fight your what you think is yours. If you feel that he no longer has a connection with you and you feel him distance maybe it will be a better that you leave.
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reader, MsBehavin +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I'm not sure what kind of details you two hammered out about your long distance relationship, but it stands to reason that falling in love with someone else would be crossing the boundary. Cut all ties to this dude and for God's sake do not move in with him! He is of poor moral character.
It may be hard to see it from the other girl's perspective because you're hurt - but she's getting crapped on by this guy as well. Do you suppose she knows that he's got a long distance girlfriend that he's planning on moving in with? I'm sure she doesn't; otherwise why would she allow herself to become so emotionally invested in him? Dude is the jacked up common denominator. He isn't worthy of either of you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I'm sorry but this isn't about you fighting for what's yours. He's chosen another girl over you. Regardless of whether they've had sex, he is cheating. Furthermore, he thinks it's fine! You should get out if you don't want to be a third wheel to his cheating forever.
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