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writes:I am currently on a long distance relationship and what is upsetting me right now is that my bf is like living the single life when I am not around. He goes out with friend to bars to drink and have fun. I do not mind that he goes out but, there is always the risk of meeting up girls while you are on those places. I ,on the other hand, stay home 'cause when I am on my hometown I work, and when I am free I travel over to see him. Therefore,i never really have free time. And even if I did I would not go out that often; it's like he is in a constant party. I don't know if I am too controlling or what is going on with me but I get very upset when he goes out untill sometime 4:00 am.Am I right? or Am I too much? Any advice on what to do. At the same time, while he is enjoying himself, I am
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Hello,
We all have to have social lives, and if he doesn't get to spend much time with you then hes going to have the natural desire to go out with friends and socialise (and not necessarily cheat!).
Do you think it would be fair if you asked him not to go out and enjoy himself? We can't tell you if he is trustworthy or not because we've never met him, never had the chance to analyse his personality - only you can decide this for your self.
How ever, if this is upsetting you - you need to talk to your partner about it, explain to him that you feel upset that he is going out very late (without reason), you feel deserted? You have every reason to be suspicious, due to the long distance - but you do need to explain this to him.
Ryan
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): i'm afraid your just going to have to trust your boyfriend. You can't expect him to stay home whenever your not there. He needs to be with his friends as much as he needs to be with you, and that's okay, that's normal =)Maybe suggests he uses a portion of his free time to come and visit you? Fair's fair.
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