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female
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:I just started at college 3 months ago and I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of over a year. Lately he has not been treating me well and I know he is constantly flirting with other girls. I was ready to break up with him but when I saw him this weekend he convinced me that he would change. The problem is that while I was convinced we were over I started hanging out with one of my male friends a lot. He is very touchy-feely with everyone, but I am beginning to think he might actually be interested because he tried to kiss me the other night but I pulled away and ignored it.I like him a lot as a friend but I am worried I might be giving him the wrong impression, especially now that I am trying to stay with my boyfriend. I'm not even sure if I want to stay with him either. How should I handle the situation with my guy friend?
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 I dont believe long distance relationships are worth the effort. It brings a lot of troubles mentally financially and on the way they end sadly -mostly-.
He is not making a caomparable effort anyway and he is flirtious with others.
Common senses tells to give it up. Find some one who is usually around you.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Hi sugar, you aren't happy with it, and if he tries again tell him to back off because you are still with this guy and you aren't happy with the way he's acting (in a nice way) :) stay happy, and make sure this guy does change because long-distance relationships are always hard, and that's without them treating you like rubbish. I hope i helped, feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Firstly, i think that if your boyfriend has flirted with other girls already then he will continue to do so and just rely on you not finding out. So I would rid of him.
This then opens up your options with the other guy, whom if yu are ment to be with your boyfriend you should steer clear of but if you decide to end your relationship then why not pursue him and see where it goes. It would certainly be more conveinient althou your male friend does sound like a bit of a player.
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reader, Giles  +, writes (24 November 2007):
I'll give the same advice I seem to be giving everyone these days (not to detract from your situation but just to say that a lot of people are in the same boat...)
Give it time.
In a month or two of just getting to know this other guy, you'll be able to to know which of the two you prefer. People always think that if they don't act NOW, the opportunity will pass them by. In relationships, opportunities that pass by in such a short time aren't actually real opportunities, they're phantoms, temporal, lust...
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