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writes:My LDR boyfriend was supposed to come and see me today, after having worked away for 6 months. He was supposed to be getting the train to me this morning; however, his phone has been switched off all day, he is not answering my texts (I know he hasnt received them yet because Ive had no delivery report) and Im just sat here livid that Ive wasted an entire day waiting for him. I dont know whats wrong. I spoke to him yesterday, he was having a family meal. I spoke to his mum and brother too and everything was fine. As far as I know he was dead excited to come and see me. What do I do now? I dont want to send him any more texts. I just keep imagining him in bed with another girl after having a heavy night out because I cant think of any other explanation. So what do I do? And how do I react when he finally does make contact? I cant even call a friend because they all think that Im with him now having a romantic day. Im too embarrassed to tell them that he hasnt bothered show up and Ive been left without a clue as to where he is! He's been kind of flaky with me before, telling me he will come and visit me and then changing his mind. So I finished with him and got with someone else. He then begged me back and said he would do anything. I stupidly fell for it and took him back, saying that this was his last chance. Now it looks like hes blown it again. What do I do now because I feel like im going to either cry and go mad if I just sit here any longer.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Hello,
Thanks for follow up. OK, that sounds a good idea from you. Wait a couple of days and see if he contacts. That will make you feel better. But, yes he could have contacted you any time he wanted on Facebook. Also, isn't it a bit of a coincidence that when you are due to meet, he loses or breaks his phone and doesn't go on Facebook. AWOL. So, after Tuesday evening, cut all contact, block him on Facebook and block his number on your phone. Otherwise you will be messed around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for all your answers
I have since found that hes either lost or broken his phone because when I call I just hear the long disconnection tone. So I understand that he couldnt contact me and didnt get my texts. But he is on facebook. He could of contacted me on there if he really wanted to, right? And he hasnt even been on it since last week. I just dont know what to do. Dont really want to write him off just yet in case something has happened to him. Should I just sit this out and after a few days if there is still no contact from him then enough is enough? thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): This man isn't worth the heart ache. He has led you right up the garden path and didn't even have the nerve to let you know he wasn't coming. Leave him one final text if you havnt already saying 'thanks very much for letting me waste an entire day, you obviously get a kick out of humiliating well I'm afraid it won't happen again.goodbye and goodluck' then change your number. Don't hesitate or wait for a reply, just change your number. You'll feel a lot better when you know he can't contact you and you'll get over him quicker because you won't be sat round wondering if and why he hasn't called.
Personally I don't believe in LDR's. I can't see any happiness in not having any physical contact with your partner whether it be holding hands, cuddles on the sofa or making love. Every couple needs affection, and you can't do that through a phone.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (10 July 2011):
Hello,
LDR relationships need both to grab every opportunity to meet up when possible. If you are in the area or coming to Town then naturally you should both want to meet. He has blown you off before and now seems to be doing it again. The phone off and all that mean..."I don't want you to contact me." I would end this now because LDR needs both to want the meet ups. He simply didn't want to meet for whatever reason. Save yourself trouble and sadness by ending it now.
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (10 July 2011):
First cool yourself down. I understand there are a lot of things going on in your brain right now but I suggest you to just relax a bit. He has arrived yet or text you back does not means that he is with another girl. So, comes down.
If you don't understand, try to think from your boy friend's point of view. Lets imagine there is a scenario in front of you. You have lost your phone and got lost in the town. Today, you are supposed to meet your boyfriend. Luckily, you found him at last and the first thing he did was suspecting you that you have cheated on him. You would think this is extremely unfair for yourself.
So, stop all your imagination. Also when somebody is going away from your life, there is no way to stop it. No matter how hard you try; no matter how smart you are; no matter how good you are;it won't help you.
I hope this help :)
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