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reader, xAx  +, writes (18 June 2013):
 Once you get over him, which you will, just enjoy yourself. Enjoy partying, flirting, etc and when you're not expecting some guy is gonna swipe you off your feet. That's what happened to me and i haven't looked back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the opinions and advices. I will continue to ignore him. I am moving on slowly and doing great. I know i can do this. I don't need someone like him in my life. I deserve better.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 June 2013):
 STOP, STOP, STOP!!!!! taking calls from phone number(s) that you KNOW are his... AND from any phone number which isn't identified.....
You have GOT to understand that this creep is trying his darndest to stay in your head.... and EACH and EVERY time that he gets through to you, he believes that he has made progress in his insidious game..... DON'T let him do this to you!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm supposed to now back home to be with him and this happened. I am still madly Inlove with him but what he did to me is something Icant accept it. Iam disappointed it ended this way. I've been receiving unknown calls and when I pick up just silence on the line and just listening. I have a feeling it was him because I never t calls from unknown. And also he used to call me at work all the time also and I'm receiving calls and hang up. If he wants to talk why not say something. I just want closure that's all.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 June 2013):
You should be thankful that it lasted so long. Generally, LDRs have 6-12 months before they become either non-LDRs, or simply non-Rs.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 June 2013):
 I would not reply and I would ignore him to be honest.
he's keeping contact to a minimum but it's his way to keep you hanging on.
with LDRs if after 6 months to a year at your age if one of you or both of you are not planning a move, then the relationship is going nowhere.
this one is dead. let it go.
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reader, xAx +, writes (17 June 2013):
He will give up and get bored eventually. Men like him need to be taught a lesson so kept ignoring him!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 June 2013):
 I wouldn't reply either. He obviously is trying to make you the "bad" guy. How passive-aggressive of him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 June 2013):
OF COURSE you don't reply. That's HIS way of keeping some/any communications open, with you... and, thereby, KNOWING that you haven't really "forgotten" him....
Be strong....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBlocked him on my contacts 2 days ago. Earlier today I recieved an email from him saying " I guess blocking my number is the only way to get rid of me". I didn't reply. Not sure if I should. I can't believe he has a nerve to ask me after what he's done to me.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 June 2013):
If you don't plan on visiting him, I would block him. Because what is the point in getting texts from him if you are trying to move past it.
One thing you have to accept is, you might NOT get closure. Specially if he can't even have the decency to break up with you.
I would send him one last text saying something along the lines of:" I'm assuming we are over, so please have the decency to stop contacting/texting me, as I have no wish to talk/text to you."
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was thinking of going there to visit my home town and my best friend. And of course get a closure. Him texting me don't help when I'm trying to move on. Should I block him on my phone list??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2013): Maybe you should be daring and just go out there and knock on his door. But, go with the intention that it is over and shame him a bit about how cowardly he is to behave in such a childish way. To man up and end things with you the right way if that is what he wanted... And note that he should stop texting you at all if that is what he wanted to begin with because your moving onto bigger and better things than him.Bring a girlfriend, and vacation a bit when youre there? :)I once drove 18 hours to see an ex who has ignored me for 4 months... I wanted closure.He apparently got married and was expecting a baby.Take a snapshot of his face when he looks shocked that you found him. Make a little story of it on fb and soon it will be shared on viral; make a fool of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt hurts really bad when you know how much you love this person. Its in my head and I can't stop thinking about him :( I'm trying to keep myself busy and move on with my life.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 June 2013):
Maybe he sent those because he doesn't want to seem like it is HIM "dumping" you. More like he is letting you down "gently, which we all know is crap and cowardly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut why sent me picture text, Mother's Day text and bday text if does want to talk reply my calls and text???! I don't understand. I am trying to move on and forget bout him.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 June 2013):
Don't feel too bad... LDR's are very difficult, even if you see each other occasionally.
Stop concerning yourself with what happened (it wasn't your fault) and try and move on, this time with someone closer to home.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 June 2013):
Sounds like he's found "greener grass" closer to home to be honest.
I would let HIM do the next contacting, if he doesn't call/text in the next week I'd mail back whatever you feel you "owe" him or just don't want to keep that he's given you, and move on.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 June 2013):
It "sounds" like he's lost interest in you... so, YES, give up and get on with your life...
Good luck...
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reader, xAx +, writes (14 June 2013):
Short and sweet - sounds to me like he's too lazy/pathetic to break it off and is stringing you along for whatever reason. By the sounds of it, calling him isn't making a difference. Ironically, maybe not calling him will get his attention?
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