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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Recently my husband hit me. He had been drinking and he lost his temper. He had no recollection the next day, has apologised and promised it will not happen again. I just don't know how I feel or if i'm stupid to believe him. He is a drinker anyway, but has never hit me before.Should I trust what he says?
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (8 November 2009):
 They say never trust a drunk! because they are not capable of recalling what they have said, or what they have done.
If the drink is changing him into another person and for the worse, then he needs to seriously quit drinking, and i would be letting him know that.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 I agree with marriedlady in particular...trust him 'only until he drinks again'. It is entirely possible that he doesn't recall hitting you during one of these episodes. Cold comfort that. Time to get his drink problem sorted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I am a recovering alcoholic and have been told that during a bad binge a few years ago I blacked out and hit my husband (embarrassingly, I have no recollection of it happening). From my own personal experience I can tell you no, do not trust him until he gets sober. Alcoholics are capable of doing anything while drunk. They turn into an unreasonable person, out of control and certainly not trustworthy. Encourage him to get help and I encourage you to seek out a support group.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
No, don't trust him. Perhaps he should give up the drinking if he's going to start abusing you.
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reader, q1605  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 I have been as drunk as the law allows. Drunker. I have never hit a woman.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 no i wouldn't trust him. i also don't believe he doesn't remember. i'm guessing he just doesn't want to face up to it
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 That's how it starts..just once, and they promise to never do it again..but they will..again and again. Protect yourself and start thinking ahead. This is just the beginning. Take it from someone who has been there. His word is good only until the next drink.
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reader, marriedlady + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 Only until he drinks again. Statistics prove that most abusers are also drinkers. Once that line has been crossed, it will more than likely happen again. I would want more than promises.
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