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writes: been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?
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reader, pyan  +, writes (13 January 2010):
hi
i see your point has he put stuff on and have you spoke to him about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont have a problem with him viewing porn, but ghe porn he has registered to is real life couples, which he can watch and put videos himself on if he wished to and he can rate their performance and vice versa. Porn is okay but not so sure about this due to what i have explained above!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): is an aid. he's getting off in a motel alone instead of doing what a lot of spouses do away from home. give him a break. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought that prior to us being together that is what some single men do, experiment and do silly things but being married just less than a year i am surprised that he is on a sight like this, i thought that in the first few years he would have been happy with just me and him, isnt that what love is about??
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reader, pyan +, writes (7 January 2010):
so what do you think about it and if you knew before you married him what as changed. pm if you like
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 He must have been following the porn related discussions on this site in which we are told that all porn is artificial and asked how can wives be expected to measure up to the 18 year old, silicon enhanced, airbrushed porn babes. By going for reality porn he's being quite PC.
I can't normally be bothered with porn BUT if I'm travelling and I'm away from the people that I generally have sex with then I might find some porn as an aid to getting off quickly mainly so that I can sleep properly, especially if I'm working against an awkward time change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i do understand that men look at porn and like to visualise bit what i find quite weird is that he has registered onto a sight which is about watching other married couples have sex and then the person watching rates their performance. Prior to getting married i also know he was on a sight where he advertised himself to wanting to find sexual partners to have threesomes with including men!!
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Something is abnormal with the subject of sex. It might be common for female and male to share sexual excitement commonly. As both have same one type of mind, body, and emotion. But, it seems both have contrasting vision about sex. If male feel excitement with any sexual site, then female make her appear as if she is indifferent to sex site. This is not normal. Such indifferent is most most abnormal.
Such indifference create duality. Useless war against life, which is not possible to win. It is animal type jealousy that is out to destroy the heavenly kingdom possess by human mind.
It should be count abnormal when one cannot enjoy enjoyable thing easily, and surround useless confusion and duality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): In answer to your question. Im sure not ALL men view porn when they work away. And if your husband enjoys watching pornography, hes obviously going to think its normal. Everyone has a different opinion about these things, its how you feel about it thats important.
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reader, pyan +, writes (6 January 2010):
hi
first i think it is normal but you should talk to him about it. have you looked with him that may bring a whole new chapter in your relationship and if you do he may not look when he is away.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 January 2010):
It's a visual aid to help stimulate him because you're not there with him. And yes, it's pretty normal.
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reader, Wontonbomb +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Many women overreact to their partners watching porn, whatever type it is. Unless it's children or animals, men looking at visual aids to pleasure themselves has been going on since cavemen drew on walls (maybe not that far back but you get my point :) ).
Honestly, watching real couples on homemade videos is just another visual aid with probably no substance to it, i.e. he does not likes watching couples have sex in real life, just on video.
I can understand why it might bother you, or any woman for that matter, but it's commonly understood that men are very visual creatures when it comes to sex. It never has any bearing on how he feels about you or means you are not providing him with fulfilling sexual satifaction, just that he is horny, bored and needs a quick release.
Better he do that than cheat right?
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