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writes:so me and my husband have been together for 5 years and we just got married in jan.. he gets deployed when i get a phone call stating he got another army girl preganat .. well this being said i ask him about it.. well got in this huge fight because i was so hurt and we decided to see other people even though i wanted to work it out well that night i was so devestated i went and drank way to much and slept with this guy i didnt even no.. in the same week me and my husband decide to work things out.. we find out that baby isnt his but he did sleep with her.. now a month and a half later i find out im pregnant .. by this guy i didnt even no.. he comed home in two weeks and im only 2 months along.. i need help how do i tell him.. do i consider it cheating.. im so scared to loose him i love him so much plz help.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was taken to the hospital and i found out i misscarried .. wat do i do now.. should i tell him or should i just leave it at that..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): Technically i wouldnt say its cheating and he cannot be cross with you because he did the same thing - you definately need to tell him. However you do need to think - is he gonna be happy bringing up another man's child?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 It's a bit of a grey area to be honest because things were obviously in such a state of flux when you slept with this other guy. Some people will say yes and others no. My gut feeling is that guilt ridden over his cheating he may be prepared to cut you some slack; be hurt but in the end forgive you. But you know this guy best.
If i was in your bf's position then id be hurt but not too angry because of the circumstances. However, the best thing you can do now is be straight-up with your bf. Try and hide things and it will only make things worse. You need to sit him down, create a relaxed mood; definatly not as soon as he walks through the door but the same night if you can and just tell him what happened and ask nicely for his forgiveness. Like I said my gut feeling is that you will get it and I feel you should. Good luck :)
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