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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, my heart has literally been smashed into a million tiny pieces and it hurts so much. It hurts this much mainly because it was a sudden breakup and that I wasn't expecting it. What's even worse is that she's been dating someone else for about two weeks and its intensifying the pain so much more. She met him while she was still involved with me and she keeps telling me that she didn't have feelings for him and that she never had an eye for him yet she's been dating him only after being separated from me for a few days. Was she lying to me the whole time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): That sucks, big time. Just know that you will recover from this in time and go on to find a better girl for you. While it really hurts, in th
E end it will make you a more compassionate person.
There is a reason that so many songs, movies and books are based on getting your heart broken. It is something that happens to most of us at some point or other, and when it does, it shakes you to your core. Just know you have a LOT of company. It has happened to almost all of us. We got over it, and so will you
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time...and whatever you're willing to live with.
What does all that mean?
It means that it might be time to move on. I know that's easier said than done, but there eventually comes a point in our lives where we have to let go of the past. I have had to make changes to my life in the last few months. It happens to all of us. We all go through a tough time.
Things become easier after you make changes and stick with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Oh man I feel bad for you. First off, eff this brod. Seriously you deserve so much damn better. She's immature and didnt confront you properly about splitting. She just went ahead and saw this other douchec*ck a$$ nugget lol.
PLUS, she's manipulative as chances are she told you this to make you jealous, to make you want her more. A woman who plays games with your heart deserves to have four periods in a month. Listen man, shes not worth fighting for at all.
What I think you should do:
Repair yourself. take time to heal. Talk about your feelings and get them out of your head...all your frustrations need to come out productively. talk to your friends or your parents. Parents are the best and most supportive, your friends at your age, could perhaps not be a good influence assuming they are around your age cause they havent reached a certain level of maturity. Over time, this sadness may turn to anger. It did for me with brods and now look at me, benching almost 4 bills cause of stress lol. Thats my outlet...my anger outlet, the gym. Do NOT rebound pal...do not hit a lot of bars or clubs. take a little time to heal and focus on yourself and goals and have a few guy nite outs (just make sure you know whats on tap). Good luck man...you have my sincere best.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I feel for you buddy, I truly do, I just cant feel the hurt from a perspective that ive never actually been through, the LDR angle, so im not minimizing it by any means, just trying very hard to understand your perspective, anytime anyones heart gets shattered its nausiating, but I guess we have all learned this the hard way, and it is agonizing, ive felt many sorts of pain, broken femur, abscess, concusion, crushed disc in my back, it's all fucking pussy shit compared to the pain I felt having my girlfriend of 10 years leave me then find out shes fucking her boss not even a week after we broke up, and yes, I never saw it coming, thought all was well! I feel your broken heart bro, and you need to listen to the advice these people give you on this board, even if it's not the advice you want to hear, your not going to get advice you want to hear, cause it's not a subject that is going to have an outcome you want it to have, you have to drown out the misery you feel with something else, or it will eat you alive, trust me, as hard as it seems, doing what these people tell you will get you over this a fucking whole lot faster then sitting around trying to think about shit, if you want to truly get over this and feel better, you need to do some things that dont really make a whole lot of sense to you at that moment, but once your past a certain point, it will all dawn on you, and come into focus, and you'll be a lost happier and stronger of a person! stay in touch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe were together for a year and it was a long distance relationship but we talked to each other all the time and saw each other numerous times during that year.
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (29 September 2010):
I feel ya, mate. I agree with C. Grant. She probably wasn't lying the whole time. Most likely she was already unhappy in your relationship (how long was it, if I may ask?) and saw in him qualities she didn't see in you.
Now you might have been lucky with that one. I have a friend who started flirting with his ex while she was still seeing someone else. She gave him that line: "I like you but I can't be with you because I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend".
Guess what, a couple of weeks later she broke up and they started dating. Few years down the line, she breaks up with my friend. Through some weird social connection to her new boyfriend, my friend finds out she did the same thing with this new boyfriend.
Some women just can't be single, and these women are trouble.
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reader, Nakia2014 +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I'm sorry that happened to you..but honestly, you can never tell if she's been lying or not. I have had almost the same thing happen to me, but I am a girl..It sucks, big time..but you just have to know that, at one time, she must've really did like you!! :)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 You're not alone, man, I've been there. No, she probably wasn't lying the whole time, just at the end. She's decided to take care of herself, and you should too. Get your buds together, shoot some pool and have some beer. Dwelling on her ain't gonna make anything better.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Its hard to tell if she was lying to you, nobody can tell you that but her, and if she was lying then you deserve better and the pain will dye down eventually and you will soon find yourself out and enjoying yourself again and when you feel happy again then go and find yourself a new women
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