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My grandpa molested me when I was 13!

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Question - (21 June 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 24 June 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My grandpa molested me when I was 13. I stayed over at his house all summer because my parents were finishing building a house and moving into it. The abuse started by him tickling me one time after I was tickling my cousins. A minute or so later my grandma walked in and told him to stop saying I was too old to tickle. A few days later I asked him where my brothers went and he told me they went by the river fishing. He walked with me and when we got to the river nobody was there. Then he looked at me a said this would be a good chance for him to finish tickling me since nobody was around to hear me scream.

He tickled me for about 10 minutes and I ended up peeing my pants. Finally he stopped and I was exhausted from screaming. As I laid there trying to catch my breath he took off my pants saying he was going to clean me up and performed oral sex on me. The feeling was so pleasant compared with being tickled and it shames me to admit I really enjoyed it. Then I was forced to pleasure him until he ejaculated. Finally we walked back to the house. My grandpa ended up having oral sex with me every chance he had that summer. I am thinking about telling somebody what happened. I don't want to cause heartbreak in the family though.

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A female reader, identifiable United Kingdom +, writes (24 June 2009):

identifiable agony auntIve been too a crown court and watched a case just like this before, there was hard evidence and the fact is he got done for ten years but good behaviour let out in 5.... showing stuff like this should be exposed your family welfaire is lovely to consider but it stll stands at 13 you were molested and indecently assualted. Also my next door neighbour has told me of her uncle raping her when she was younger, this tuff sickens me and if years down the line you still think of it you should tell your family! you need to hear there closure and you need to understand bottling issues up never helped noone... i urge you to confide in them and sympathise deeply with you, and ashamed is not what you should be, be proud of your courage .. Good luck x

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A female reader, xxbaybeegal United Kingdom +, writes (24 June 2009):

xxbaybeegal agony auntWhat a sad story. I'm sorry you had to go through those shocking experiences.

No one in this world deserves to be molested and it's just sad that your grandpa would do something like that.

You should tell your family because it's something that happened to you that shouldn't have happened.

Your grandpa had no right to do that, and i don't know how he could have done that to his own grandchild.

Telling someone will only make things easier and you will probably be better at handling the situation

Even if it's a counseller or your family you need to tell someone. It's not something that should be kept inside.

But good luck x

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A female reader, imcurioustoo United States +, writes (23 June 2009):

Omg im so very sorry.. I really think that you need to sit down with your parents and tell them what happend .. It won't be easy.. But they neeeed to know .. Especially if your grandfather is still alive I mean he could be doing that to the younger grandkids..and don't feel ashamed because it felt good.. It does .. But from the right person.. It sounds to me that your grandpa is ill in the mind and needs some physiactric help .. What he did was wrong and disgusting ... and just know you did nothing wrong you didn't know any better and that's understandable best of luck and my prayers are with you .... maddie.....

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A female reader, Stalker111 United States +, writes (23 June 2009):

OMG.You need to go to your parents together at once.You may have a STD (sexually transmitted disease) from dear old Grandpa so you may need to go to your doctor or the clinic.

I am not going to criticise you for saying that it felt good because you are too young to even make decisions on stuff like this,and you really are not sure of what really happened to you.Your Grandpa has committed a crime and others need to know.If you allow this to go on he may end up raping you.Tell your family and don't go spend any time with him alone again.

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A female reader, QuirkLady United States +, writes (22 June 2009):

QuirkLady agony aunt*hug* I'm really sorry that he did that to you. That was cruel and wrong of him to do that. Are you close to your parents? If so, definitely talk to the very least they should be able to get you into counseling for the abuse. I know it will be scary to tell your parents but I think it will be a good idea to get yourself some help at least. If you are not close to your parents do you have a close cousin or best friend to confide in?

Please keep us posted and best of luck to you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009):

Tell whichever of your parents isn't his child. The one who is his child may find it hard to believe he could do something like this. But you need to tell someone so he can be punished and so he won't hurt others in the future. Be of luck

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntWho were you going to tell? Is your grandpa still alive! If he is a risk to other people then you should tell the police, if he's dead and you're over it then keep it to yourself. If he is alive and you don't want him to go to jail then speak to a counsellor. X

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A female reader, Rich Bitch Ireland +, writes (21 June 2009):

Rich Bitch agony auntThis is something that shoud be shared between you and someone close like a brother sister cousin or best friend because his is breaking the law by having sex with a minor.Your family has a right to know what happened.

Hope this helps you,


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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009):

Oh my god, you poor girl, look i dont blame you for saying you enjoyed it o.k? your only human, but you shoukdent let this go, What i think is that you should sit your parents down, and tell them what happened, or you should call the police, one things for sure though, do not ignore this, it could just keep happening, and he could end up rapeing you

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