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writes:I am a sports freak, I play field hockey and soccer and great fan of other sports. I always wanted to have girlfriend having same passion for sports. To my good luck, I got one early 2010 and immediately we hit off well. She was a field hockey player and now coaching local town club and just one year younger than me, and has got great knowledge about different games. All our time spent discussing sports but off late , her superior knowledge gets me jealous and I get the feeling my expressions make it obvious on her. She loves me like crazy and so I but can’t get rid of this tendency . I am proud of her having got such a beautiful mind but the jealous is also there. What should I do to control this instinct of mine? I would appreciated if you people could help me on this! Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): Try to see it as a good thing rather than being resentful. I love being with a guy who knows more than me, it's so sexy!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (23 September 2011):
 Be proud of her!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 What causes the jealousy? Is it because she has better knowledge than you when it comes to certain areas of sport? I guess the is just you feeling like sport has always been your passion and now that someone has came along with better knowledge you are feeling a bit put out. The only advice that I can give to you is try and stay positive. When jealousy kicks in try and remember why you are with this lady and what it is you love about her. Look at it as a learning curve for you and that she is just feeding your own knowledge more. Look at it like a positive thing in life.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Learn from her instead. Learn what she knows, and learn more, then you will be her equal. Your jealousy, I suspect, comes from you feeling insecure. But I can close to guarantee you there are a million things you know better than her, know more about, or can do that she can't. The point in a relationship however is not to be competitive and see how is better than whom, but have a person you are proud to be with, who also is proud to be with you. We each have our talents. So what if she is better at sports knowledge than you... it doesn't mean you are bad at it, or don't know anything. Just means she knows a little more. However, like I said, a relationship isn't a competition. I am sure she thinks it is great that you know as much as you do so you and her and discuss sports and share that passion. I don't think she reflects on who knows more, or feels "better".
But in either case, let her have an area where she shines. You should be proud of her for that, just as I am sure she is proud of you, and probably proud of many things you don't even know you are great at.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 If this submittal is the first time that you've revealed this jealousy to ANYONE.... then I would keep quiet for the rest of my life about this.... AND would smile sweetly and love life in the shadows of this wonderful-sounding girl when discussions happen to be about sports-related details that she is familiar with and you're not....
How's the rest of the relationship going????
Good luck....
P.S. Be sure to get on HER team if you and your friends play "Trivial Pursuit"!!!!!!!
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