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He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!

Q.   Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...

A.   28 December 2013: past is called the past for a reason, if he cant let that go and grow the hell up he aint worth it darlin. it was b4 u got together so he has no ryt calling u these names, im sure he slept with other women before u got with him . either he let it g... (read in full...)

Should she just be up front about the nose job?

Q.   Just a simple question, I know everybody has their own opinions on people who have nose jobs. But please don't be judgemental and say those who do are 'shallow, stupid, fake' or any other insulting and personal comment. Because it depends on the ...

A.   13 July 2013: ok....we all no its not ok to lie,BUT..... she feels people would judge her, then its down to her...we all know whats right but she has done it and all you need to do is support her xx good luck... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex! Can this be fixed, or should I walk away?

Q.   i was in a really bad relationship on and off for about 6 years i moved states away to be with this guy and we eventually broke it off. i met up with an old friend that ive knows for a really long time and he was over seas for a few years and i ...

A.   21 October 2011: hunni u shoulda got out when he started pressurising you. you may have had 1 to many drinks but you wer saying no and you have legs, sorry if this sounds harsh.you should have just gone straight back home...it will take time for your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)

Am I falling for him? Is it too soon?

Q.   i have been in a new relationship for 4 days now, i have been in so much pain with fallin in love because of my past, but when im around my bf i just dont care about anything else and when he holds me and kisses me he doesnt want to let go and nor ...

A.   18 January 2011: you could be or you might just like the company...and its never to soon to fall in love but you just real have to go careful coz that other person may think its to soon and things may go in the air...think very carefully ... (read in full...)

He is overly protective and it bothers me, any suggestions?

Q.   Hey guys just wanted some opinions! I have been with my new bf for only a few months and most things are going great i feel we have a really good relationship. Only recently tho i have started noticing how protective and jelous he can be....

A.   21 July 2010: hey my ex was the same he controlin jelous parranoid, i had to stop seeing my male frends because of him and it was the worst desicion ever. i lost 2 of my closest frends which i knew for 7 years, my ex went up to 1 of them and accused him of flirtn ... (read in full...)

Love triangle and a baby!

Q.   hey huge problem, i a 19 yr old mum with a 2 year old lil boy. i have a fiance in bristol which ive been with 7 months now...before i got with my fiance i was seeing some1/not in relation but we had sex and other feelings, i was hed over heels for ...

A.   27 January 2010: i know it was wrong and i dont know what to do i dont what hurtful nes i just want normal.....i need help ere plese somebody... (read in full...)

Should I break my own hymen?

Q.   So yesterday while masturbating I felt my hymen and I now I don't know if to just pop it or leave it be? So should I pop it or not?...

A.   27 January 2010: never do it on purpose coz it can hurt and bleeding occurs...leave it for masturbation/sex/or rough sports like bike riding and horse riding... (read in full...)

Average time to propose to your girlfriend?

Q.   For anyone who could possibly know... What's the average amount of time it takes before guys propose to their girlfriends?...

A.   21 January 2010: depending how long you have been together i meen my boyfrend proposed to me wen wed onli bn together 6 months but we live far apart and we r hed over heels 4 each other....so wenever your ready but go careful if u havent been 2gether that long then ... (read in full...)

Help! What are these bumps on my vagina?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 8 months now. We were both virgins and in fact both each other's first ever partner so we had never kissed or had sexual contact with anyone before. We had unprotected sex the first time but he ...

A.   20 January 2010: all vaginas have lil bumps on the inner lips no need to worry. only worry if they hurt ok ... (read in full...)

Just a misunderstanding or worse?

Q.   I've been together with my bf for about 2 years now. The last time I went to see him something happened that I can't stop thinking about. One night when we went to have sex I guess he decided he wanted to try anal. There was no talking about it ...

A.   20 January 2010: i dont kno wether id call it rape coz it was not vaginal intercourse but he did sexually violate u and he should of asked. yes he should of stopped, crying and trying to not let him is a sign sayin no. try and talk to some1 u reli trust or if u cant ... (read in full...)

How can I get sex to be more pleasurable?

Q.   I last had sex about 6 months ago, i've only ever had it 3 times (to the same guy) but each time it really hurt... the pain was excruciating so we always had to stop, which was disappointing for us both! Me and this guy broke up a while ago, and I ...

A.   20 January 2010: it culd be the size and it could be because u might be a bit tight some girls r some arnt but either way sum of the time it will be uncomfortable...try diffrent positions and ask him to go slow and steady c wat happens ... (read in full...)

What does this guy really want from me??

Q.   ok so i met this guy on plenty of fish..we've been chatting on there for a month now... and went on a date on sunday.. he was really nice.. and thought i was soo beautiful.. after the date..he told me..he wants a serious relationship an...

A.   20 January 2010: he seems to realy like you but if u feel its 2 fast you have to tell him and talk to him. if he thinks ur avoiding him then things might not go the way either of u planned. get him 2 meet u again have a chat see what happens if he wants u then he ... (read in full...)

Husband has been cheating with his ex?

Q.   I have been married for 19 years. I just found out that my husband has been cheating with his ex girlfriend. I don't know what to do! When I ask him why he says, "he don't know". He was seeing her for about a month when I found out about it. He says ...

A.   20 January 2010: if u both want to stay together and work through this then try counceling and open up 2 1 and other. get him to say wats wrong with this relationship , why he cheated on u..there has to be a specific reason...find out good luck... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to date a woman 7 years older?

Q.   Anything wrong in dating older women (like seven years older than you)?...

A.   20 January 2010: no its absolutley fine your both over the legal age so no problem i no many woman that are older than there parters... (read in full...)

Help me out here! Is it illegal for an 18 year old to date an 15 year old?

Q.   Is it illegal for an 18 year old to date an 15 year old? ...

A.   11 January 2010: it is not llegal even tho some people may find it a bit disturbing. as long as he does not do anything sexual they will be ok ... (read in full...)

I am crushing on my math teacher and he found out!

Q.   Well fo starter I'm 14 and in Year 9 at the moment. But, I have the most gorgeous and amazing maths teacher ever! I love him so muchan can't keep him out of my head. We have a good laugh together and he is a great teacher. Anyway, A few weeks back...

A.   25 November 2009: your so young many girls have had crushes or fell in love with teacher i did but nothing will happen gaurantee it because teacher puil is not good he could lose his job i know that...its hard but just say it was a joke and u forgot to rub it out and ... (read in full...)

Want to hear from people who had affairs and what the outcome was

Q.   Hello I am writting this on dear cupid lookingf for people who have been in the same situation as me. I am writting a book on my experience but feel I should also do alot more research on the subject before diving in even though I have 7000 words ...

A.   24 November 2009: i did it turned out terrible i was with him 3 months and found out he got back to gether with his wife and it tore me apart coz he couldnt go on and he loved me the next day i was upset i had a 1 night stand and he came round and saw empty condom ... (read in full...)

A little blood..too much sex? Sex too hard?

Q.   Okay so here's the issue, today is November 24th. On the 22nd (2 days ago) When I went to the restroom I noticed a little blood on the toilet paper [sorry TMI], it was a bright red I believe, but it never came out enough to make me need pad, all ...

A.   24 November 2009: it may be he id penatrating u to hard but it can be a little periodor u could of misscarried ....i would advise u 2 use protection due to you can end up pregnant. but the best thing to do is take some1 u reli trust to the doctors with u if it ... (read in full...)

He's left me holding the baby while he goes out and cheats!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have a 3 month old baby girl, we are engaged and living together. I'm 17 years old, he is 22 years old... i love him with all my heart and now i feel hopeless. lots of different girls have been calling him ...

A.   24 November 2009: yes he cheating and NO he should NOT be using u as a punch bag just coz u want to talk about wat is going on and yes it is hard to leave some1 u love but he may be a good dad but you dont need this, you have family to depend on use them no man ... (read in full...)

Is it too late or should I ask again, should we meet up?

Q.   hi, i'd like some advice please.. I met a guy on line early this year and since easter we have been in touch by texting about twice a week sometimes more. i'm 42 and he's 48, we both are separated/divorced and have grown up children, but we live...

A.   24 November 2009: go on the weekend away just see what happenes if u dont want things to go any were then tell him and say good nite u have 2 single roms try good luck... (read in full...)

So in love with her..but she loves another guy! Help me!

Q.   im in love with this girl called Emma, she has a boyfriend who she has been with for 6 months, shes always on about how much she loves him on her facebook, we do have a bit of history, before she got with her boyfriend i was sleeping with her, i ...

A.   24 November 2009: tell her coz its happened to me to the point i couldnt take it and ended up in hospital. if she dont take any notice then ur gonna have to get over her its hard i know but it be better for you then you can find some1 that makes you just as happy as ... (read in full...)

I get all paranoid when he doesn't message me..why am I so insecure?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Before that I'd never had a relationship last more than 2 months. I've gone after the wrong guys and been hurt bad. My current bf is amazing. He treats me well, respects me and the other day said h...

A.   24 November 2009: you say he loves you and treats you right and if he didnt he would not be with yo, do things try and get your mind of it turn of your phone or read till he does ... (read in full...)

What do you all think of 'one night' stands?

Q.   I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...

A.   24 November 2009: 1 night satands are........BAD, you can get called all the names under the sun and then you can still end up pregnant. drunk sex is not the best thing to do... (read in full...)

Are these signs she is cheating on me? What do you think?

Q.   hey i'm in a long distance relationship and i suspect my partners cheating on me... many things tell me she is and i will write them as the following,but please,i would appreciate if no one answered me with the same old" oh y'know when you sta...

A.   24 November 2009: it does sound to me she is and regretably ive done all of that. 3 years ago.....but the thing is its a bad thing to do and you have to sit her down and talk to her if she starts to get wound up leave it till she calms down coz if she is pregnant you ... (read in full...)

I can't trust my current bf, because of past bad experiences. Please help!

Q.   i was hurt by my ex it took me more than a year to get over him, he made me ill and i was heartbroken, then i went on a wild thing when me and my ex ended where i would meet up with alot of boys everyweek, i started seeing a few but it never worked ...

A.   24 November 2009: if he truly loves you then he will give you time but you can find ways of trusting him i had to with mine coz my ex did the same thing with me and i 18 with a kid, its hard to trust another man when 1 has hurt you so bad you dont think some 1 will ... (read in full...)

Would his erection problem be okay, if he was with someone else?

Q.   Is it possible,that my husband can cure his erectile dysfunction with a new relationship? I mean is there any chance if someone can't have a normal erection and losing it when inside, but has no medical reasons for 5 years. My husband and me are ...

A.   24 November 2009: he is at that stage when men his age can get erectile disfuction, and it doubtably wont work with another person, it can come and go without any symptoms or it will stay. but there are ways....viagra, or another stimulant which yu can get from ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure how he feels. Do you think he likes me back?

Q.   Hiyaaah I really really like this guy! He's a year below me in school and before I knew him properly he asked me out but I said no because I don't date guys unless I know them quite well and plus I didn't really like him much, but now I do I reall...

A.   23 November 2009: get ur confidence and take him 2 1 side or meet him and talk and see what he says if all is well he might ask u out again or ASK HIM dont be afraid to ask a lad out....good luck... (read in full...)

How can I convince her I'm not the same as her boyfriend?

Q.   OK I am feeling really sad lately. I am seriously in love with this girl. She says, she don't trust me because we haven't talked in person yet but we had known each other for almost 2 years. She has a possessive bf of about 3 year plus. She said...

A.   21 November 2009: your a shoulder for her when she needs it but if u see her in school talk to her then she might just meeting up with u outside school try ok good luck... (read in full...)

When my boyfriend is away I get used to feeling 'single'. Does this mean I don't love him?

Q.   Alright so my boyfriend and I have been together 11 months and 2 weeks. We have a sort of long distance relationship, but when he comes home he lives next door to me. But, ever since our relationship started after awhile i get over him being aw...

A.   21 November 2009: im in the same situation as you i live 270 miles away from my fiance...he in bristol and i in lincolnshire, its hard we been together 6/7 months. only get to see each other 1/2 times a month and he at college. when he does come down he stays wi... (read in full...)

I'm 25 and never had sex!

Q.   hi guys I am 25 years old and still I had never gone through female sex.Whenever I tried to make sexual relationship with my gf she always ignored me.So pl z I feel myself ashamed right now.Can anyone suggest what should I do?? ...

A.   21 November 2009: is your gf a virgin? if not sit her down and talk why things arnt going well in that department...the longer u keep it the better lol but you dont want to keep it to long sorry ever heard of the 40 year old virgin........good luck with the chat ... (read in full...)

If I take my ex to court..can I get sole custody of my daughter?

Q.   my ex and i have been divorced for about 4years. our daughter is now 9. we have split custody but he hardly ever comes to see her, call her and hasnt got her annything for her bday xmas. Or helped with any of her school, personal expences, doctors, ...

A.   21 November 2009: if you have proof and people that can back you up then very much so. my ex is trying to take me to court coz i dont give access...which i do and he lies he has a whore and he has a mentality of a 12 year old and my lil boy is 2....the court usually ... (read in full...)

Missing my ex bf so badly... help!

Q.   i really miss my ex. its been about a month since we really spoke. i mean i seem him twice since then, and he spoke to me, he even kissed me the other day, after telling me a month ago neva to speak to him again. so i havent hit him up and wasnt the ...

A.   21 November 2009: why did you split that would be a good start. yes hit him up and say happy birthday but dont do anything else let him make the moves, u dont wanna get ur hopes up xx good luck... (read in full...)

I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!

Q.   Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...

A.   21 November 2009: while the cats away the mice will play, you have to do wat is best for the baby, and even if u do love this woman ur loyality lies with your friend...he will find out sooner or later because if the child is yours when its born it wont have any of ... (read in full...)

I told him a very personal thing about me and now all his friends are calling me names. I don't know how to handle it any more. Please help!

Q.   Last night i told my boyfriend of 10 months that i had been raped before we got together and that is why i do not wish to have sex before we are married as i am scared and any time i think about sex i see His face. its horrible. Even for my ...

A.   21 November 2009: your ex bf is not very supportive then if he thinks all that about you. being assulted either way is the worst thing for a human being to go through, it was not your fault you got raped...most lads want what they cant have and then suddenly bamm it ... (read in full...)

I've met his family but he hides his friends

Q.   I’m 21 years of age, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I love him, and honestly have never been in such a great relationship. There is one minor problem which gets to me. While he has introduced me to his family, I have not met any of ...

A.   21 November 2009: hey, he maybe keeping things from you for a reason or he might be ashamed of his friends because of the past or he might be thinking of you and not introduce his current gf to his ex's ....that is a hard thing for a gf to cope with, but if you rely ... (read in full...)

She seems genuine but guarded. Should I wait?

Q.   I met this woman recently, we had a couple of dates. We clicked very well, both were very intrigued by each other. But when it came to being intimate on a number of occasions she had a hard time to open up. Sometimes I think she unknowingly had ...

A.   21 November 2009: she likes you but if she was hurt in a previous relationship it will be hard for her..depending in which way she was hurt, yes wait for her. you like her and she trusts you thats why she told you...she needs some1 there for her, when she is ready ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is worried about our future

Q.   I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the ...

A.   21 November 2009: ask her if it what she reli wants or both of you just try and calm down on the future business and get ur life sorted out 1st not meening to sound harsh but i did exactli what u 2 r doin and i ended up engaged and a kid at 17...u dont want that ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is worried about our future

Q.   I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the ...

A.   20 November 2009: darl, you havent got long left till you finish school and planning the rest of your lives together is going to be a bit stressfull if....your not going to the same college or you live no where near each other or she may be moving, sit her down and ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dated celebrities and I'm not sure what to make of it

Q.   I met my girlfriend 5 months ago in a nightclub through a friend. We got chatting and after an hour I got her number and arranged to meet her at her place to watch a movie. I was busy with work and didnt call. I saw her in the same club a week later ...

A.   20 November 2009: its such a short period of time and tell her u may want it in future but not now. the past is the past but she may be in to the higher rankings if u know what i mean....just take things slow and see what occurs. good luck... (read in full...)

My husband lies and gambles our money away. Where do we go from here?

Q.   im 22 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years.We have a 2 year old son and we live together,but my boyfriend has a gambling problem. He lies to me all the time and gambles behind my back,he also thinks that its alright and makes me feel...

A.   17 April 2009: your husband is immature, give him an ultimatum. its u and your child or lying and gambeling your lifes away, if he chooses gambeling then you no that ther is no hope. im sorry for putting it bluntly, good luck... (read in full...)

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