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writes:this is a question mostly for the ladies-how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two or three times a day most days, and I was all for it. But eventually my desire subsided a bit- I still think she's gorgeous and sexy and great in bed, I just don't need to have sex 2-3x a day anymore, I am satisfied with 3-4x a week usuallly. Anyway she is still a beast! Shes always after me, she wants sex at least once a day, but usually if I have sex with her once, she'll be back again in a couple hours asking for more. She wears me out.Also I am confused because i always thought it was supposed to be the other way around- men are horny and always lookin for sex, and women are completely uninterested? I just ask because maybe there is something wrong with her that makes her act like a man instead of like a woman. I have never had this problem with past girlfriends. I feel like I am dating a dude sometimes, and I'm playing the role of the wife.she also has a thing for porn and is always watching it... probably about 5 times a week or so... I don't mind so much, I don't personally watch it very often because most of the acting is so lame and the girls don't really do it for me... I do watch it 2-3x a month or so...almost always with my girlfriend.what do I do to tame her sexual desires? why is she acting like a guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Well, that sounds like me... nearly, exactly the same problem. Me and mine are the same age though. My man seems happy with once every 3 weeks, I want it more than twice a day. I used to spend weekends having sex with ex-partners, but due to the demand (from me), it broke us up. I feel that this current partner is going to leave to. He doesn't like ANYTHING!!! Porn, Sex toys, masturbation. A shame cos he's lovely, but we're obviously not compatible.You're obviously not compatible with her either. Rather than drive eachother crazy and end up being totally frustrated with eachother, you may have to come to some kind of compromise, or go your separate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I met my boyfriend when I was 27yrs and he was 23yrs.in 2002. I was at a blackjack table gambling on my sister's b-day. He came to the table and play on our table. First, I thought he was cute but didnt say anything. My sister and another girl on the table thought he was cute and was hitting on him. At the end of the night, me and him start talking and hit it off....we stayed at the hotel for like 2 weeks. We mess around and end up having sex. It was great! Now, its 2009 and we are still together. Our sex life is great! I gave birth a to beautiful baby girl in 2003. We have such high sex drive. But, I noticed for the last 2 yrs my sex drive is higher than his. Im always sooo horny. I want to have sex everyday. I want sex more than him most all the time. And especially when we are in an arguement(doesnt matter who's fault) my sex drive gets even higher. I just want him to F***me hard and just make me be his s***. I just want him to be real rough and just do whatever he wants and afterward when we are done I go back to being mad at him. Is that normal? Why when he make me mad my sex drive get way higher???? Anyway, I think in my realtionship I'm more of the man and he's more of the woman cause Im more agressive and want and need sex more than him. Sometime, we talk about having a 3sum, to see if that will lower my sex drive or help my sex drive. And Im willing to let him have sex with another female while Im watching to see if that help or maybe let him watch me be with another guy. Anyway, He's home. Im horny right .BYE
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): You lucky man.
I wish I was in your shoes, I can have sex 5 times a day.
My wife tells me I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Its not that helpful to worry about what is "normal" the real question is are you well matched. My girlfriend is 44 and I am 63 and we both left relationships with partners our own age who "just weren't interested". We have been together 3 years and have sex pretty much every day, more if there is time. We feel so relieved to have found each other.Obviously people differ, and for different reasons, so talking can solve some problems but sometimes we are just seem built different. However it helps to like yourself and your body and to be unembarrassed about it. Keeping fit helps and you will look and perform better
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): i am 24 years of age and me and my x boyfreind had sex 6 x a night or more so, he was 7 years older then me and had many sexual partners ive only ever had 5 but even i wore him out, we split up over 9 months ago he now has a new gf but we still meet alot just for the sex, i also masturbate at least 3x a night i love sex but im not into one night stands ect but its like once i start i cant stop?! i just find it difficult to meet a guy that can keep up with me AM I NORMAL?? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I'm 26 year old straight female and consider myself a woman whose sex drive is on the higher end. I really enjoy sex when I have it (how can you not enjoy multiple orgasms??), but I don't *need* it every day, nor do I masturbate, frequent pornography, or engage in risky/alternative sex. There have been days when I've slept with my partner maybe 3 times, but that's the maximum.
Honestly, I don't think there's anything YOU can do to tame your girlfriend's sexual desires. It's possible that there are intimacy issues or that she views and uses sex differently than you do. Many people use sex to deal with life when they: are bored, crave adventure, want to escape, want to feel better, want to feel close to someone, want to feel in power/control, etc. I think the real question isn't why your girlfriend is acting like a dude, but whether "acting like a dude" may actually sometimes refer to a NON gender-specific PROBLEM that is tolerated, accepted, and even encouraged in males (but not in females). I could go on and on about this, but I'll spare you! ;)
Also, there is a huge difference between a high sex drive and sex addiction. I will not attempt to "diagnose" your girlfriend, but I do recommend doing some research on sex and love addiction in females if you want more insight. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I feel your pain. I am very attracted to my girlfriend, and she's very attracted to me. She has a very high sex drive. I find 3 to 4 times adequate but she wants it 3x a day. I would love to be able to do this but there are a lot of times where I am physically tired and what not. And also there are times to where I just go soft and it honestly makes me feel defeated trying to please her. It also doesn't help that she's only orgasmed once during intercourse and it was with her ex. All of this ultimately makes me feel soo defeated. I am looking into Viagra or penis rings to try and help. I know it doesn't help what I'm telling you, bt I want you to know you're nt the only man wihthis problem. I I fnd a solution I'll let you know
-a fellow male with same issue
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): your lucky my wife has a low sex drive and never wants it mine is very high. maybe we should swop partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): LOL, I have to write. Im a Male 38, was married 18 1/2 and divorce still good friends just grew away from the romance, Sex was hit and miss and no it only lasted 20 minutes..lol Stay sinle for a year and half. Met my new love in MS, Im from Ohio. We date in highschool 23 years ago. We dated for a year while she lived in Ms, I was back and forth every week. She my everything. Any how while I made the trip weekly( I drive Truck) that how I was there so much but it turn out we was having sex 4-7 times a day for over a year and trust me I live there most of the time. I went from a 20 minute guy to OMG and even got to the point off it goes and it keeps on going. Seems so crazy. Now she in Ohio been here for 9 months and we havent missed a beat. I would never turn her down and we have talked about cutting back, She admits and I do to we both was sexually deprived and neither us needs it as much as before but I think we both still our keeping up with it because we both think the other needs it.lol Lack of comunnication. We both know one day it will end. I even have laugh with my ex that I have had more in 20 months then in 18 years. Please dont someone take that the wrong way, my x and I our still best freinds, she even had a check book for my accounts for 2 years after the divorce. So we talk freely and I know some people have prroblems with there ex but dont look at mind as normal. Lost the luster and didnt take the time to get it back, but will always be freinds to the end. You all have fun, just was doing some reading tonight seen this thought I would throw in my 2 cents. Morral of the story. My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her..My answer. She has probally found something thats not sexually you give her. My ex provides that to me and I provided that to her but ours it not sexually what so ever. Im not saying if you dont have this then sex is a blop, but women seem to enjoy more what Intimacy normal males provided and I personally feel the same way. Any one can do it..lol Please excuse the type o errors, its stinksThink about this 80 yo couple married 55 years and they did it one last time with what little strength they had. Would it be better or worse then a 25 year old couple that just met at the local bar. Who would get the most out of it Psychically and mentally. Thanks All have a good nite. Sorry again for the type o's would fix them but late and I goto get to bed. Need my rest
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): No, nothing wrong with her... I am 29.... not even at my peak and I am crazy... of course, I am dating someone that I absolutely adore and love... that increases my drive. I want him all the time! GRRR!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Man, we should switch girlfriends. Generally males have higher sex drive, but in many cases it could be other way around. I personally need sex 2-3 times a day (or at least want to), my girlfriend only settle for 1.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Your girlfriend is normal, she just has very high sex drive. However it can drive a relationship apart if one partner needs it more than the other and you cannot compromise. I left my husband of 5 yrs of which one of the reasons was our different sexual needs. There was a period of about 2 yrs! when my libido literally went out the window after having our first child. But when it came back my ex-husband suffered from premature ejaculation and we stopped having sex almost altogether. There were other problems in our marriage, sex wasn't the ultimate reason why the marriage dissolved but it was ONE of the reasons. I've now met a new partner and he satisfies me no end. We have sex 4-5 times a week, it's so great to have that feeling once again because I've always had a high sex drive (I'm in my early 30s). It's nonsense when I near people say lack of sex in a relationship/marriage is no big deal because it is important IMO. Love and sex go hand in hand.If the OP is still reading this I hope you can work things out with your girlfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Im a guy and I have a high sex drive I wish your girl was mine I would go non stop with that I could last hours cum and still be hard
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reader, Rivermeetsanend +, writes (3 October 2009):
There are lots of women who have high sex drives...I consider myself one. But 2-3 times everyday? Where do you find the time for that?
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reader, Hotguy12345 +, writes (24 September 2009):
Girls, dont blame us boys. There is hardly any normal boy who can say no to sex if girl is HOT and Sexy.All of the girls complaining abt boys shd have a look on themselves first and ask yourself a question- are u hot enough to wake a guy's desires up. The problem is that after a while we boys get bored of seeing same face and body with no extra efforts to improve. And its a simple market mantra if u dont change your menu you will run out of business. If we boys have less sex desires then how come its possible to become a 24*7 guy if we are with a new hot and sexy girl (as u all say in the beginning it was more). So look at yourself, make some changes and get some hot curves plus give love to your boy coz we hate if u show u are with us only for sex. I am sure this will help u..Cheers!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): I agree with a lot of these girls on here. I too have a high sex drive and just don't get it enough from my boyfriend of almost three years. What I am wondering is what is wrong with guys these days?! I just want a lot of sex, and get so frustrated with him. It makes me depressed when I have to go for more than a week without it, and he acts like he doesn't even want it. I dont know what to do anymore. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Your girlfriend sounds just like me. My bf and I have been going out for almost three years, and I too have an insatiable sexual appetite. Some girls are just built that way. If you can't keep up with her sexual desires, you should tell her to get a dildo. Perhaps a rabbit vibrator? I've also heard that the more you have sex the more you want to have sex, so maybe try to lay off it a bit. Whenever my boyfriend feels like you do, he just flat out turns me down, so I go watch porn and please myself. You need to make sure she is pleased when you are in bed, and she wont need it as much.
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reader, Just Gene the Marine +, writes (18 August 2009):
Well just talk to her about it man. Tell her you cant keep up and its draining you or however you feel. If she loves you then she will respect that and you two can find alternant ways to satisfy her needs. Me personaly I envy you I can never find a girl who can keep up with myself, yea I hate sleeping with many other females to get what I feel I need but its hard to find a women who is on par or higher then myself and love me for me. If i can find a girl such as you'res witch you are lucky i'll be good. And look at it this way bro at least she's doing it with you and not some one else to get what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I am a 42 year old woman, I am tall, slim and have been told really good looking, I have a similar problem, I have found that since being with my present partner I have a higher sex drive than him, believe me I wish I could get it 3 times a week, sometimes its only once a week which is driving me crazy because I am so in love with my partner and I fancy the ass off him, I am fairly fit as it is, but I have tried to get fitter and toned up more to make him want it more, but doesn,t seem to be working.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I'm a woman and I'm the girlfriend in your relationship. Hell, you could be my boyfriend writing about us! My man and I started out having sex about 2 or 3 times a day when we first got together. Then he started wanting it about once a day. Then it became about twice a week. I love him dearly and would never leave him, but I almost feel like I was tricked! I mean, how can you be all for sex in the beginning of the relationship and not maintain that pace? Why the drop off? I just don't get it. It doesn't matter that we've been together for almost 4 years--I don't understand why suddenly I'm the one always asking for sex.Despite popular belief, women are highly highly sexual creatures. Most women DO have a high sex drive. Some men don't. I think you'll have to compromise in your relationship--maybe tell her to "get you in the mood" when you're not 100% up for it. Ask her to perform your favorite sexual treat to get you aroused and ready. This might help you gain a little higher sex drive as well as satisfy her (and show her that you're trying).At the same time, be understanding with her. Its VERY frustrating to be her (trust me, I know). Don't be angry or snap at her--she's showing that she loves you and wants to be with you sexually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): you are a lucky man. i love having Sex but not with my boyfriend. I dont really get turned on by him. We have sex about 3 times a month. However, i watch porn everydaY, masturbate 3 or 4 times a day and sleep with my ex boyfriend when i can. My boyfriend says i've got a higher sex drive than him. I even masturbate with a toothbrush! I dont know if i should leave him. I was abused when i was younger, and i suppose i dont get turned on by my boyfriend because there is no element of danger or dirt in our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): here is nothing wrong with her! what's wrong with you!? maybe it's you acting like a female. personallly, i love sex. ABSOLUTELY ADORREEEEEE sex. and yes, I'm a female. I live far away from my boyfriend, and when were together that's all i want. he doesn't mind so much either. your girlfriend is just a nymfo. like me :D i watch porn more than my boyfriend does.
i once made my boyfriend cum, and then we had sex again a few hours later, and it lasted FOREVER. it was AMAZING.
i honestly think you should stop whining, and open your eyes.
and if yor really REALLY not into the sex,
maybe your gay, haha
if yor not attractre
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Sometimes I feel like I am the one with the high sex drive and I only want it 2-3x a week. I consider myself lucky to get it once a week however we never go more than a month so maybe I am lucky. We have a 20 year age difference; I am in my 30's and she is in her 50's. When we first got together, we were having it 2-3x a day and we started as an affair. However, 3 years later and now we are both divorced and finally together in the eye of the public...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Many women want sex more often than men do,yet are taught by society not to. look at the replies here - calling women sex addicts & asking where they find time to have 5 orgasms in one day? Would you ask a man that?? Some men have slept with more than one woman in a day, a woman who does that is a slut. It is like we are not supposed to like pleasure.
I am in my lat 40s & still would like sex daily. Or more than once when I do have sex. I feel comfortable with my body, my looks and I don't embarass easily.
Of course my partner of over 20 years does not want sex more than once or twice a week or less (that's a lot for him it used to be 5 times a year til I had a talk with him, he prefers to do it for himself, less work) He won't even let me try a blindfold which isn't even kinky.(but he will watch the kinkiest tv show where they travel all over watching machines do women and all kinds of really kinky sex)
Why are so many of us so mismatched?? I love him but lately have thought a lot about leaving and finding someone who really cares about my sexual needs. I think it has something to do with the men's general attitude toward women - they do not want to please someone that much when they have a bad attitude about women. My partner does & has no reason to as I have treated him like gold always and he is a very good looking man.
I read somewhere ( on a psychology site) that men who don't care about your needs in the bedroom will not care about your needs outside the bedroom either. It's true in my opinion. If you tell a man that you read that see how quickly he changes.
For the men who make women happy in and out of the bedroom I have to say thank you even if I am not with one of you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): Dump her dude, you are mismatched.
My ex had low sex drive, and didn't like her boobs handled, and I lived with that for years, thinking I was abnormal with my high sex drive and boob fetish.
After we divorced for other reasons, I met a girl with a high sex drive that almost matches mine, and she loves the boob play. She's not a morning sex person (I'm an all-day-ready-4-sex sex guy), but she lets me bang her tits in the morning and loves it when I come between them and rub the cum into her skin. She also likes porn like I do, and wants to watch it while we go at it. This weekend I came with her about 10 times between Friday night and this morning, and she about 4-5 times.
So I believe there is a sexual soul-mate for everyone out there, you just have to look hard, and put little subtle clues on eharmony profile about the kind of romantic you are, especiallly in terms of how often you like to "get romantic" and you will be more likely to find that soul mate.
Good luck,
Satisfied in SoCal
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): I am 26 and I have the same problem. I started being sexually active at a very early age, and stopped being sexually active at an early age as well. My mother is a very attractive woman and I would catch her in the act with porn in the background quit a few times, as far back as I could remember (3-5yrs), about 10-12 years of age I started masturbating, and at 13 having sex, from 15years-22years I did not have any sex nor did I want to, I didn’t even talk to boys, I went to prom with a family member. I have always been very attractive, even model for a long time. Somewhere around 22-23 I started watching porn for the first time and having sex again; now I can’t stop. I want it like all the time, the dirtier the better. I don’t even know how I went so long without having sex. The thing is that I only like having sex with one partner. I left my old boyfriend (late thirties) who would never bother me, for a younger man that was more close to my age that could keep up with me. The first six months it was sex heaven we would go at it like 6x a day, no joke. Sex clubs, strip clubs, parking lots, in front of people, porn the whole 9 yards. As soon as he took me home and labeled me his soon to be wife, our sex life completely changed. No more night clubs, strip clubs, and sex only about 3x a week… if that. We have been together for two years and my drive is still the same. I have to masturbate behind his back, because if knew he would flip out, trust me, he even threw out all my toys. He doesn’t even like to watch porn with me, at times I have to force him. I learned that, the less I bug him, the more he comes around. If I tell him no he’s begging me to say yes… and if I ask for it, he gets frustrated. I feel it has to do something with the Man feeling like the man in the relationship, I feel that if a woman starts to portray men-like qualities the Man gets turned off. As soon as I cached on to this our sex life is getting better, I even mange to get him to watch porn we me every now and then. I would never cheat on him, but I do get very frustrated to the point of leaving him, because I have to take care of myself a lot, about 3x a day, sometimes more.
Just try to come to a medium understanding. Tell your girlfriend how you feel, even if she cries, stand your ground, and try not to only think of yourself as well. You are lucky either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): I only wish i was in your situation. My wife and I have sex about 2 times a week. I am 31 and she's 27 married for 2 years. I would like it to be at least everyday if not more. I have tried talking her to increase the frequency of intimacy. We have lot of communication, affection and understanding. But it seems she doesn't get the physical need to have sex so often. Of course when we have sex, it's always great and she orgasms 2-3 times before I finish. I love her so much. I have settled into masturbating at the other times I need sex, but don't get it from her. Enjoy what you have and be really really happy about your girlfriends desire...because i know there are so many of us out there who are not so lucky
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I have a high sex drive like your girlfriend and when I was married I felt like the dude in the relationship as well and I also watched quite a bit of porn. But what I have learned of myself is that I have a bonified sex addiction and I am a sex addict. Your girlfriend sounds like a sex addict as well. I bet if you dig deep you will find some trauma in her past and you may also find she has an addictive personality. Sex for me is a drug, better than any drug I have ever tried, therein lies the problem and the reason for the addiction. Only it is never satisfied. I am coming very close to working on my addiction because frankly it is very frustrating to always have to have a partner for sex and not to be able to go with out sex. It is usually sex for all of the wrong reasons too. I hope that this helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): its not normal, my girlfriend is the same way.
i'll be playing a game or just watching tv and she'll all the sudden want it.... like every day, it gets old.
I mean, in my case, it would definitely help if she lost a little weight... but enough is enough. Cant you just love somebody and not have sex like a thousand times a week.
Shes the one with the problem man, these girls need to learn that theres a fine line between sexy and pathetic. Its almost like a reverse "hard to get" by being tired of it.
If i had balls i would tell my girlfriend that instead of researching on the net if i was alone in my situation. But if you're girlfriend is like mine, you can't have those conversations, because she cries, you say you're sorry, and nothing changes.... needy girlfriends man, they suck balllllllllllls
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): You got one of those good problems bro.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): So I love that this blog is like a year old and still getting lots of attention. Must mean that your girlfriend is normal and that there are lots of women out there just like her.
I am like her a lot. I love sex. I want sex all the time. 2 or 3 times a day would be super for me. I always am worrying that I am not normal too. I feel like I am wearing my boyfriend out too. Please do what you can to make your girlfriend feel normal not a weirdo. She is just a sexual person and wants intimacy with you. Probably has always been a sexual person. I am that way also. Starting masturbating at a very young age. And reading my parents dirty magazines.
Be glad, there are lots of women out there that are perfectly satisfied with sex rarely or never. Its fun too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Hi. I am 30 and extremely sexy. It becomes impossible for me to do my life works if i keep my self from boys for 2 days. Actually i dont want to marry because i enjoy sex with my any friends which are few thousands. I want sex 24 hours a day. Infact i do sex about 15 times a days with atleast 5 boys a day and in each sex i get 5-12 continuous intense long orgasms. Some may last 40 seconds and 12 continuous makes it 360 second long. I have a good hunger for sex. I love my self. I am enjoying myself for 20 years.
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reader, openmindbaby  +, writes (17 April 2009):
Hello,i am a female and i came across your question because i was searching to see how many more women out there have to contend with a very high sex drive, like mine.And i found many entries...I think it's a great thing too.We live in a society that loves to stereotype us all.But as humans we are unique and diverse,so your girlfriend is not acting like a man, she simply enjoys life.Maybe her heightened drive is a distraction from other major issues going on in her life?Or she needs much reassurance that she is loved.Try to investigate...if by now you are still together...also this goes for other guys reading this answer....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): Dude...it has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. Society just likes to hold that idea to make it seem that men are the horn dogs and women are pure as gold. I happen to be a woman who absolutely LOVES sex. After my partner finishes, I want to keep going right after, which usually he can do. It really all depends on the person. Sometimes a higher sex drive can mean that the person is healthy or has higher or lower estrogen and testosterone levels, but not always. My ex couldn't even keep it up whenever we'd have sex, which was merely once or twice a week, but that could have been several factors with stress, health, mental well-being and how the status of the relationship is doing. Don't stress about your girlfriend being the beast, just talk to her about it. She may get a bit frustrated at first but hopefully you and her can reach a mid-point that can suit both of you.Hugs and Smooches XOXO's
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): My man is 8 years older than me. We have an understanding--no sex on the work days because he works long, physical hours. I respect that and leave him alone during the week, but it is very difficult. I am one of those that could do it all day too. I think it is the endorphins that make me crazy and want more. Guys, you have to know that us ladies love to feel good. There's many things that you guys do to us to make us feel good and we want more. My man has learned to make me orgasm so much on the weekends that I'll be satisfied for the whole week and will be looking forward to the weekend again. It's taken us 10 years to figure it out. I think it is normal for a woman to want it a lot if she's turned on by the guy she's with.Eat less sugar too. That's been scientifically proven to increase libido.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Dude! I've got the same "problem".My GF is HOT, and always horny.I'm definitely on the trying to keep up with her side of things, and I can't always do it! Especially, after I've had an orgasm and she wants to keep going.So, yeah... it's tough. But it's never going to be perfect, and would you really prefer a girl who had a lower sex drive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Come on guy, this lady is just but in love with you. She has no where to turn to and the moment a lady is in love, and that is TRUE LOVE, that is exactly what happens. Be proud of your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): There is nothing wrong with either of you, you're just different. Just like some people like to eat pizza a lot and some don't, she craves sex a lot more than you. I don't see why you assume she should be "tamed", why don't you try and increase your sex drive? Plus evidently the whole idea that she's the "guy" is just plain wrong. Guys, women want sex too, deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): there is nothing wrong with her i would have sex all day long if i could and have done to the point of exhaustion my fella never moans and is always happy to please me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): hi . . Well i hear you but i cant say i can give you advice. Im extremely sexual and i must say my husband has also said i make him tired. I want it atleast once a day but i agree with what some of the others said. Maybe if they gave us more attention, loving, kissing, playing, oral, prolong the session and make sure we have like 2 to 3 orgasms, we might just calm down a bit. Some men just think of their own needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): ummm DUDE!
You are so lucky to get a girlfriend like this! Sex drive is related to age. It might be that you are older than she is, or you have passed the period that you are hungry for sex. Remember your late teenage years? I don't know about you, but many guys, including myself thought about sex every moment we had! I would have sex 6 or 7 times a day and still want more. She might still be in that stage. She could also be more attracted to you than you are attracted to her. You should really talk to her about this issue rather than blaming that she has a problem! Work out your sex routine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): I'm like that, me and my husband have sex everyday 2-3x a day... I can't get enough. It's not a problem unless on of you makes it an issue (or goes elsewhere for it).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Oh my goodness! This cracks me up because I am just like that!! I love, love, LOVE sex!! Even if I don't get off... I know I'm not a sex addict because I don't feel like I need it and sometimes I can go for long periods of time without it but I just really enjoy sex and getting my boyfriend off that I want to do it all the freaking time!! It's completely normal, for me it's a way of showing my love and care to my boyfriend. I love satisfying him and finding new ways and positions and props to use to get him exciting and wanting more! I think a lot of women are like this but we don't talk about it as much or do it in a guy kind of way...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): It's normal. I after my husband at all times. I ask for more after few minutes. My husband never had problem with ex girlfriends and wives who were complaining they sexed too much. Now, he has me.. he keeps laughing for no reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): She does have a problem, People always think that when a women wants a lot of sex and does all the things you said its a blessing and that this is nothing to complain about. You are 100% correct for feeling that something may not be right with her. She sounds like a sex adict to me. How do I know this, because I also suffered from this, its a real problem not something to laugh about, I mean u don't laugh when people are addicted to cocain or heroine so why laugh if a women is adicted to sex and why mock the guy whos on the other end! My advice is talk to her about it, go on a few websites research sex adicts, symptoms, help. I helped myself when it came to my sex adiction. I was having sex with a lot of people because at the time I didnt have a partner so it was easier for me to reconize I had a problem. When I was with my boyfriend my behaviour was the same as your girlfriends but because he enjoyed it, I never questioned it. So for years this went on. When I realised I had a problem I went "cold turky" meaning, I didnt have any sex, touch myself, view any explicit material just anti sex for atleast 3 months. It was hard and I had major lows and depression. For the past 3 years I have been living a controlled life. I still enjoy sex alot because that adiction will always be in me but every guy I have a relationship with I tell em clearly I am a sex adict and that it really can't get out of control. Luckily they have understood and cared enough for me to live a controlled sex life. I have relapsed about 3 times in the past 3 years....I just want people to know it aint nothing to laugh about. Its a serious adicted, arent they all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Don't you think your being rather sexist?
I've got a very high sex drive too & it has nothing to do with having more testosterone than other females either.
Stop trying to put everyone in the same box, no two persons are the same!
My sex drive is probably higher than your partners & I watch a lot of porn too...Is it a problem for my partner? No, because instead of automatically thinking it was a problem with me, we as a couple worked out what was best for us. I'll have a play with a toy while he watches & either he'll join in & give me a hand or just enjoy the view, & whilst we're having sex he makes sure I orgasm a good few times (about 4/5 times at least) so I'm so tired out theres no way I'll be asking for more 5mins later.
Just because she's got a higher sex drive than you doesn't mean there's something wrong with her, are you sure you even want to be with this girl because you've got a really funny way of showing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): No, your girlfriend is normal, I'm a woman, and I have a high sex drive too. It has nothing to do with her being a woman or acting like a guy. It's just how she is, every persons sex drive is different.
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reader, nickie5  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Reference your Question; My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her? I don't think so females love sex just as much as guys. I too have a high sex drive but it only acts like that when I have a partner who is absolutely fabulous in bed. Women talk about sex just as much as men or even more we just don't stay on the topic all day. Speak to her find out how she feels. maybe she just want to satisfy you so you don't leave. Many women believe that if they don't have sex as much as they feel they should they will loose their man. I don't think she is crazy nor you. She is either just horny or really wants to please you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): You have no idea how fortunate you are to have a woman like that! Keep her! Do whatever it takes for you to keep up with her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): believe me. Its not only you, the person who have this troubles. Try to have a conversation with her in a nice way and explain your situation. what you like and what you dont like. As well, I think she should keep herself busy with other activities, going out with friends, ect. good luck. If you can not solve this matter, contact to the doctor because probably she is suffering from some kind of sex problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): I read an article that said women's sex drives tend to go down once they feel they are in a stable relationship. Maybe if you reasure her that she is your girl she will stop acting out/ Show her lots of attention. Maybe, if youre ready you could pop the big question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): I have the same problem...I can't seem to get enough from my mate either and I stay with a big appetite! Don't know if it's age or what. Not many women have high sex drives, maybe she has more testosterone than progesterone. Maybe if you give her more attention and be more affectionate may help. Not saying you don't do either but maybe you need to do more of it to get her mind off sex. It helps me out, but I still want it but the extra attention and kissing and hugging helps to reduce the urge some.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): check out free online book "Tantra Discovering the Power of Orgasmic Sex" by Yogani.
This book will teach you how to totally exhaust her every single session, while gaining energy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Don't worry. My girlfriend wants sex a lot too and we have sex at least 5 times a day. It is definitely very normal for a girl to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): believe me i know how that feels, i am with a girl who also has a high sex drive. I find that if you actually satisfy the woman you are with and then keep going you break them so you then have a chance to recover and do it again in a day or two :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): oh, you are he luckiest man on this misunderstood and hard to two- way communicate world. just enjoy your live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
I cant give you any advise as Im the same and I no troubledtoomuch will think this funny, But he is wanting to trade so he is just as bad:) I guess you could take some space time to get your bits back in order love, YOUR CUTE! Thats probably why she cant keep her hands of you love YOU TAKE GOOD CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (31 January 2008):
 If I were still your age I would ask you if you wanted to trade. :) OK, I'll be serious now. I used to want sex 3 times a day on the weekends and once or twice on work days, while my girlfriend liked it once a day, most days. We compromised and had sex 6 to 10 times a week. Try to compromise if you have the energy.
Are you working long hours at your job. If you are, I can see why you are exhausted after both work and sex multiple times a day. When I was young, the normal work week was closer to 40 hours a week. Now it seems to be 50 or 60. That can make a big difference. I don't know if that is your situation, but just a thought.
To repeat what others have said, is sex a quickie or a long session? If it is quick sex then try to slow it down, with lots of kissing, snuggling, oral and intercourse. The intimacy of the kissing and snuggling might satisfy her as much as the actual sex. Also, try to give her more oral orgasms. That will satisfy her and not exhaust you so much. The orgasm takes much more out of a man than it does a woman. Perhaps that is why my girlfriend and now wife has always wanted it less than me. I always made sure that she had 2 orgasms and sometimes 3 in one session.
I know that some would say that any man would kill for your situation. I'm sure that many would, but everyone is different. Both men and women can range from total lack of interest for sex to real sex maniacs. When 2 people are so different, the only answer is compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Well she could have a real addiction to sex -I think two things may help.
1. Suggest nicly she cut back on the porn - she may be overstimulating her desire. It doesn't have to be a lot maybe small decreases.
2. She is obviuosly enjoying sex but maybe try getting her to orgasim several times this may wear her out and satisfy her drive without you climbing up there all the time. Try manual, oral, maybe toys if your cool with it, and then finish up with actual penetration.
I know this is a bit personal - but hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): She is completely normal, im just like her..
When I was with my ex i wanted him all the time, i have a high sex drive but also it was the only way i would get some attention out of him..i loved him so much but he wasnt as affectionate as i would have wanted him to be...
but i met a new guy and hes amazing! i cant keep my hands off him, hes so exciting! i could easily do it even 10 times a day with him! just a shame i dont see him as boyfriend material!....
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (31 January 2008):
I understand your concern but believe me there are girls out there who think 2-3 times a week is too much and would think you a sex maniac! Talk to her.Tell her to slow down but i guess that'll have little or no effect.Some have suggested getting her sex toys but i'm strong believer in the power of the mind.If she can train herself to want less sex,the better for you.I also think the porn is becoming an aphrodisiac.Tell her to chil a bit away from the porn.On the other hand,you can take it up as a challenge and train yourself to want sex more!
Good Luck.
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (31 January 2008):
 I can only imagine what the aunts would say to a guy who wanted sex 3 times a day.....Let's be honest, if this lady wants sex 3 or 4 times a day, she must have some sort of issue going on. On the scale of normal, it's off the chart. Since sex is a good thing it's not the end of the world. It's certainly not "average" though. Really, who has time for that much sex. I'd like to know if the original poster was exaggerating about the amount of times per day.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (31 January 2008):
 It's a common misconception that men want sex more than women. After all, women are designed for multiple orgasms and, whilest sex puts most men to sleep, it gives us an energy boost! Individuals have different levels of sex drive, however, and it's not easy when partners don't match. Talk about it, explain you need a bit less sex to truely enjoy it. Try to do more non-sexual activities together that allow you to have fun together. She'll tune down a little in time, but really she needs to know where you're at!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Ah, the female sex drive. Some of us have an uncontrollable drive...some of use are stuck in 'park'. I agree with the toy idea. Take her toy shopping! :) Perhaps just make out with her for a while instead of going straight for sex, you know? Hug her, kiss her, and show her that there's more to romance and physicality then penis-in-orafice sex. :) Consider asking her why she is never fulfilled.
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reader, Miss Stella +, writes (31 January 2008):
Hello....She is not acting like a guy.. She is horny, thirsty. and needs affection. Get with the programme. Realise how lucky you are , cause when you dont have it..
You will want it.. And dude..She wants it with you. You have the problem not her.. Nothing wrong with a healthy appetite. Get some toys or massage her , take it slow so it doesnt seem so intense all the time.
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reader, STAC3Y +, writes (31 January 2008):
Im the same so i dont really know where your coming from, but my boyfriend used to ask me the same questions but the really is no answer, shes just a woman with a high sex drive only thing i can think of is a viberater or some sex toy to keep her happy when your not on the mood, or you could try explaining that its too much but make sure you tell her you still find her attractive because woman are sensitive or if you dont do eather your just going to have to stick it out! Good Luck x
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Toys my friend toys....
I have to admit my beau was rather enthusiastic for the first couple of years of our relationship. When it felt like I was going to have a heartattack if I didnt stop I would reach into the bedside drawer and bring out the 'big boy' and she would happily play away - it worked a treat and before long I would be so worked up just watching her that I didnt give a crap about the impending heartattack - though getting her to stop banging away with the big boy could prove difficult at times! :)
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (31 January 2008):
 Tell her she doesn't need to rush now. There's pleanty of time. She should save some energy for when there's nothing left to do but sit around and visit grandkids.
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (31 January 2008):
 There's an old joke.
A woman runs into an old school friend. Her friend says - "How nice to see you! How Have you been since High School? I went to Princeton!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend continues - "I met a really handsome guy there - and we got engaged during College!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend continues - "We got married, and we have a son and two daughters!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend says "We have been so successful, we have no money worries and we are deliriously happy!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend finally asks - "What have you been up to?"
The woman replies - "Well, Shortly after High School, I went to a Charm School where I learned to say *That's Nice* instead of "F*** You!"
I'm sure the point isn't lost on you, in a site that deals with a lot of problems - YOU don't have one and you are rubbing it in.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Her body produces more testosterone than normal and this increases her libido.
Get her some sex toys.
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (31 January 2008):
Nice one...
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