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writes:Hi there. New on here so be kind!Ok, here goes. I've been with my girlfriend for around 7 months now but we've known each other for about 10 years and have gone out together in the past. I love her to bits but something's come up recently that's been tearing me up.A month or so ago, she accidently blurted out that she fancied somebody else who goes to this club that she likes to go to with her mates. I asked her about it and 'cause I trusted her believed that it was just a crush and that she loved me and nothing would happen. A couple of weeks later though, her Myspace got hacked and I got three messages forwarded to me from her account that were very dodgy.They were conversations between my girlfriend and one of her mates talking about this other guy and how she had been out with him and was planning to see him again (when she said to me she was meeting her gay friend) and what should she do about the situation. I of course confronted her about this and she said "oh, my account's been hacked and the messages doctored. I haven't been anywhere with him".I kinda found this hard to believe obviously and just had this niggling doubt that she wasn't being totally honest with me. I also later found out she has his number and he's been sending her texts and asking her out etc. Don't know if it's just me, but even giving out your number to someone else when you're with someone is crossing a line. She's been very keen to tell me she loves me, over and over, ever since which is unlike her and gets very angry and defensive when ever I bring it up.She finally admitted yesterday that she does really fancy this other guy and does think about him from time to time and if she wasn't seeing me she'd go out with him. She also admits to loving the attention and having this guy going after her. I just don't know what to do. I really love her and don't want to loose her as a girlfriend or long term mate. I just feel she's crossed a line giving out her number to this guy and the whole Myspace story is also kinda hard to believe. I really need some help on this. Sorry for the massive story, but I'm really cut up just now. Thanks guys.
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reader, mattharmon17 +, writes (25 June 2007):
i must admit itt does sound like she is playing you. i hate people like this -not you, ur gf lol. my advice is find out what this 'crush' is. generally speaking a crush in a club means they did more then talk -from my experience anyway-and no not the good kind!- i really do think you shold dump her. she has an obvious interest in him and if it was 'just a crush' she would a. have told you everything when you asked and b. wouldnt be meeting him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Get rid mate, shes playing you big time and she definiteley doesnt love you. Try to stay friends but let her go.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 She did cross the line because the attention felt good. That is the long and short of it. You are correct.
We always meet people we like. Attraction is also normal. Giving out numbers etc also happens all the time. We try to convince ourselves it's OK because we'd "never cheat".....WRONG...people with no bad intentions cheat all the time.
It's time for her to decide what she wants. Tell her she'll meet people she likes over and over again, for the rest of her life. The most important thing is who she wants to be committed too.
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