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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend confessed to having an affair and is pregnant help!
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 You must feel so upset by this. What a bombshell. Has she told you who she thinks the father is? If you are the father it is your responsibility to stand by the baby and play an active role in its life if its not yours then you must decide if you want to work things out or move on. I would insist on a paternity test. Is the man she was involved with still around? If you choose to forgive her you must move on and put the past behind you whatever you choose i wish you the best
Aunty t
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Firstly you can't be sure whether this is yours or the guy that she had the affair with. Secondly how long has she been with you? Is it long enough to forgive for the affair she has had? If the baby isn't yours will you carry on your relationship with her or not? Answering those questions will help sort out whether you plan to stay with her or not. When the baby is born take a DNA test, and get her to do the same with the other guy, so that you'll know who the father is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Is the baby yours or his? Is she going to keep the baby? sorry to ask this, but i know someone who had an abortion after an affair. If you love her you will put this to the back of your mind and help her to bring the child up, not easy, but it does happen. But please do not stay with her to torment or torture her every minute of her life. Also make sure the baby isn't put through any nasty or evil moments because of the past, the child didn't ask for this to happen. Stay by her side and both be strong, i wish you both well. Keep in touch and let me know what happens.
Take care
xx
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reader, Uncle Stu  +, writes (6 March 2007):
 ok man. stay calm. If the girl i pregnant then the child must come first. after all it isn't the childs fault. If the child isn't yours, but you love this girl, then support her. I know it sounds daft but trust me, it happened to my sister and the bloke smacked her round and left her alone. she lost the child later and is in such a mess. please man think about all these things.
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