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writes: Whenever I am around at my girlfriends her parents and brothers try and speak to me. Whenever one of them attempts to speak to me, my girlfriend tells them to go away or tells them that 'I don't want to talk to them' for no apparant reason!When her mum talks to me I can see the look on my girlfriends face as if 'shes not listening to us' or 'Fine talk without me' kinda stare. The kind of stare you give when you slightly cringe but not as bad.When her dad talks she says 'Dad he really doesn't care!'.And her brother she says 'Btw don't listen to anything he says!'. He once suggested me getting a bar job as its good fun but she said 'My boyfriends not working in a bar! Don't listen!' to me.Why the heck is she like this? Its really bizarre! Reply to this Question
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reader, Melanne  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You say that your girlfriend doesn't want her family to speak to you and this does seem strange. Perhaps this is a problem your girlfriend has with her family?
It sounds as though your girlfriend is embarrassed when her family talks to you. Maybe she's not had many boyfriends before and finds it difficult when her family talk to you.
I know that this must seem like it's directed at you and you must be thinking all kinds of things, but I personally feel this is a problem that your girlfriend has.
There also seems to be some family problems you said that your girlfriend said her dad doesn't really care. I wonder if this is more deep rooted? Perhaps your girlfriend has had some bad experiences with her family.
Your girlfriend could be going through a phase in her life where she see's her family as bad. There could be all sorts of reasons and really I'm only speculating because I don't really know the situation. If your girlfriend is a teenager then it could be a phase she's going through.
I really do think the only answer I can give is for you to talk with your girlfriend directly and ask her whats going on. Tell her how it makes you feel and ask her to explain. Honesty is the best policy. If this doesn't work then maybe you need to discretely talk to her mum or dad but that might seem like going behind her back. Be reassured that this is something that is bothering her and it isn't directed at you even though it seems like it is.
Hope I've helped a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): hun i dont no the answer to this one other than to say your girlfriend has some real issues with her family, something it seems scares her, have you asked her what her family life was like? all i can say to you is take notice of her give her lots of support make her feel secure when in ths situation be on her side be polite to her family not to over the top, ive got a sim situation but its with my biological father, he pops to see me every now and again im not over keen on him he isnt a very nice person at times with me, but to anyone else he would appear great fun, i do it for my biological mum and my 2 brothers, I hope this helps abit take care both of you and good luck
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 When a girl has a problem with her parents, she generally expects you to back her on that, and have a problem with them, too. At the same time, be respectful to her parents. You also need to let her know that only you speak on behalf of you, and that you're able to express your own opinions. If she can't respect that, then she doesn't respect you.
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