A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi I am 25 year old working gal..2 years back :i have been a wonderfull gal.. smart.. intelligent, lively and confident..I have been chat freak and got into a relationship with one of my chat friends.. we met and i really fell in love with the guy and i felt he was the best guy I can ever have in my life. he was patient .. loving and caring.. everything that i wanted in my life partner. but soon he had to leave for other country .. things got wierd.. he would not answer my calls and one day he told me that he doesnt want to carry on the relationship.. since I was not able to make him forget his first GF ..!!!..I left the realtionship.. All these 2 years I had a guy friend who was also my colleague.. we were great friends and somehow he developed a liking for me..and he shared his feelings with me after i had breakup with the first guy.. since we have been great friends i also felt the need of a secure relationship .. and i also knew that i wud also start loving him.. coz the way he had been behaving with me i knew he would turn out to be a great boyfriend..but as soon as the second relationship started.. things were the same anymore.. he turned out to be very demanding.. he wanted intrcourse.. he decided what i should be doing.. who i should be talking to .. who should be my friends.. everything he wanted to be an incharge of.. and whenever i tried to speak against it.. he would tell that I am his first GF.. he is possessive abt me.. he cares for me.. he loves me... I gave into most of his demands.. wherever i was confotrable.. i had spend all my weekends with my bf.. i lost touch with my friends..I started feeling lack of confidence with such a demanding and commanding bf.. i started remaining sad.. and not confident.. I was not sure what i had done with my life by getting into this relationship..my current bf considers himself infalliable and the best bf any girl cud ever get. although he has been sincere with me.. i have all his accounts and passwords.. but things still are not falling into place..1. he doesnt like spending money. only on special occasions he would spend.. rest on everydau basis i am expected to spend.. right from his bills .. to shopping ... we had arguments on this.. but i am the one who is given the title : Miser2. I am strongly agaisnt making your partner do something forcefully.. but he believes the opposite. i hate being forced.. he knows it but doesnt want to implement it.. i am forced to make some XYZ as my friend.. forced to buy a laptop.. forced to call somene.. if i do the same with him he gets irritated3. the very irritating thing abt him... whatever he asks me to do if remind or tell him the same thing he would go mad at me.. for him its like tit for tat..4. he has set all kind of rules for his GF.. she should be very sacrificing ... she should be very smart etc etc.. which he keeps telling me veryday..5. If i do anything wrong then I am immature.. if he does nything wrong then i dont understand things.. I am always on the wrong side..now the good thing abt him.. he still wants to carry on this relationship.. inspite of all the fights .. he calls me.. try to cheer me up..he makes me talk to his father and his father treats me like daughter... he says he intends to marry me.. only after i get improved..!!...this irritates me.. Let things work naturally..but he wouldnt agree..almost everyday i get to hear the taunts that i dont love him..and the things turn out to be same after 2-3 days..i have lost my peace of mind.. please gide..
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (24 April 2010):
What a f**king weirdo. Run like hell!
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