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writes:Should I have a problem with this?:Basically, my boyfriend of 7 months has a few of photos of him and his ex on his myspace page that he hasnt used in about 3 years. The photos are just normal, friendly photos like if you didnt know she was his ex, you would just think they were friends. However, everyone has been telling me I should demand he takes the photos down,regardless of whether or not he goes on myspace anymore. But I honestly dont mind the photos because I know they are just friends now and I trust him so much that I don't think it should be an issue. I have so many photos of me and my exes on my facebook because a lot are still my friends and as much as I hate the idea of him being with another woman hes nearly 39, he is going to have ex girlfriends and I think it is unfair to make a big issue out of the maybe 3 photos that are 3 years old anyway. I know he loves and respects me and I know he would never get back with his ex because of various problems they had. I just want to know whether I should have a problem with it or if not, what should I tell the people who say I should?Sorry its so long and confusing, I have a daughter who kept me up all night teething so am feeling a bit worse for wear.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 March 2012):
 Seriously what is wrong with your friends that they seem to want to dictate your life?
Who cares what he has on his FB that he never uses?
Unless it bothers YOU, then what is the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): Ignore your friends.......how come they know about his myspace page anyway,he hasn't even used it in 3 years!
Its your relationship not your mates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): The real question here OP is why are you friends trying to make an issue when there isn't one.
Tell them to piss off and stop trying to impose their insecurities onto you. Tell them you accept he has a past and you're too busy enjoying this, focusing on the now and waiting for the teething to stop to care about some years old photos.
OP your friends seem to have this strange idea that being a controlling insecure woman is something that is good, it's not.
If you don't have a problem with it then why make one?
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reader, uroboros +, writes (17 March 2012):
he hasn't been using that page since 3 years, i assume he broke up with his ex few years ago too? so where's the problem.
you are right, don't make this such an issue! and certainly do not listen to "everyone", this is your relationship.
take care
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (17 March 2012):
I think you should do what you are comfortable with. If you don't mind the pictures, let it be. Besides, it would be hypocritical to demand taking them down if you have pics of your own exes on fb. Don't let anyone decide for you what you should think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): I don't think you should have a problem with it. As you say you know he loves and respects you. He hasn't used myspace in 3 years so why make an issue when there really isn't an issue at all. I agree with you wholeheartedly, that this really isn't anything to worry about. I would suggest that when these friends say you should demand he takes them down, tell them that it's not an issue for you and though you appreciate their looking out for you, you would appreciate if they would drop the subject from now on. I hope that your daughter's teathing settles down soon. Good Luck.
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