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writes: My friend wanted to set me up with one of her guy friends. I talked to him over e-mail and he wants to meet up. He lives in another state but said he would drive up to see me. I'm nervous because what if he sees me and isn't interested? I'm just worried that he'll think I'm ugly or something. I'm also worried because my friend claims she never liked him, but when she found out that we sort of hit it off and were talking, she started telling me things about him like she didn't want me to like him or something. She was like listing his bad habits and stuff. She has a boyfriend, almost fiance, so I don't even know why she would say those things. Anyway, I just don't know if I should meet up with him or not. Any words of advice, dear aunts and uncles?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 No worries!!!
I can totally relate to your friend. I'm married, and I met this reeealllyyy great guy. I admit that I kind of had a crush on him, so naturally I thought that since he was such a good guy I should at least do my girlfriends a favor and set someone up with him! He was too good not to share, especially because I really couldn't do anything about it.
So I set up a friend, and it went well... a little bit inside I was kinda jealous that she got to test out that hunky fella, but mostly I was pleased that I set her up with a winner! You friend clearly can not keep her mouth shut and is letting her jealousy shine through.
You should definitely go! Have a wonderful time! You've nothing in the world to lose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Don't be too shy girl!Meet him,if he doesn't like you...so what?it only means that he's a jerk.Person shouldn't look at the physical features of a person.it should be at the manners and a fair heart...And about your friend..i am just wandering..perhaps she also likes that guy?..You know,i had a friend like that..She used to say that guy is cute..blah blah..and when i started to like the guy,she became a constant cynic!!Then i found out she had feelings with him..
But that's just a guess,huh..I am just advising you to act what you are in front of your male friend.And try to have a careful girl talk with your female friend..But please be careful to the words you'll use..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): yes you should go through meeting him she set u up and now shes gettin jelous! she shouldnt of set u up if she was going to get jelous :) RED LIPZZ xx
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reader, Cielito  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Hey
can you talk to your friend? there could be a whole list of things she is jealous or concerned about. Some for you greater good and some because of where she is at in her life. maybe she loves her fiance but would like the excitement of meeting someone new? or maybe she found out things about her friend after you both met and she is trying to warn you. if you can talk to your friend then at least you might gain some understanding while possibly deepening your friendship.
i would go for meeting this guy and maybe ask him some questions close to the topics your friend has been talking about. don't corner him but give him a chance to offer you information. there are many sides and many misunderstandings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): I would meet up regardless of your friend. Maybe she is a bit jealous, who knows. I would keep things light with this guy until you meet up so there is no big let down should you both not want to take things further. Why not attach a photo with your next email, just a holiday snap, something casual (if you have not already). There is nothing to be lost by meeting up and going for lunch somewhere. If there is no hint of romance, then so be it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 January 2011):
Yes. My advice is to meet him. Your friend is jealous, which means the guy might be a decent one. Don't waste time of your friend of a drama queen. She set you two up, so she can butt out. Go meet him and have gun.
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