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writes:My best friend of 10 years has recently started a new relationship and since then she has pretty much cut all contact with me. She tells me that she can't afford to do anything or she has no time to meet me, yet I see her tagged on Facebook 3/4 times per week with her new girlfriend and her friends. I know that when people get into relationships they will always start to spend less time with others in their life (which is of course fine and necessary to an extent), but we have gone from spending every weekend together to us only seeing each other 3 times since January.I feel like I want to tell her how I feel about this but I'm not sure how to word it. I don't want to cause any arguments and damage any chance of us having a friendship again, so I want to plan what and when I'm going to say to her. I'm scared it will come out wrong if I bump into her or I'm upset after the next rejection.Any advice? Thanks.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (25 May 2013):
 Yes... oldbag is pretty much on-line with the final solution to your dilemma. You may have to simply reconcile that your long-term friend has made another, new, different life with the guy she's seeing.... AND let yourself be left out....
HOWEVER, relationships being as fragile as they CAN BE,... don't "kiss her off" completely... and if - in the future - she finds herself "back" where she was in your's and her's friendship... be gracious, and welcome her back... and not a word of her failed escapade....
Good luck... You sound like a good friend....
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reader, oldbag +, writes (25 May 2013):
 Hi
You know something I wouldn't bother. She isn't behaving like a friend. Fair enough she has a new relationship but she sounds like she has a new life too.
It happens, its sad when it does, let her get on with it and find new things and friends yourself.
If she wants to get in touch fine, but you may find you have to check your diary to see if you can fit her in.
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