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anonymous
writes:Me and my friend When we don't hang out together and we are texting If I tell her that I'm hanging out with a girl she gets jealous and calls them skanky whores when she hangs with a guy I automatically get pissed and I wanna punch the guy in the face What does this sound like to you Does she like me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): I never tell my male friends their girlfriends are whore cause what goes around comes around, you both need to date each other since all females you gonna like are whores and you wanted to punch every dude she dated, you guys will make an awesome couple dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): Nope, means nothing OP. I have a girlfriend of 7 years and don't have any romantic feelings to anyone else. Yet I'm still territorial over my close female friends, and I'm quite wary of any new guy who comes along. They were the same with me in the past but never with my current girlfriend because she was part of our group before we got together.
OP Chigirl is right you can't act out your territorial instincts, it makes you look like a douche and you really don't want to sour things for your friend when it comes to dating by being an ass about the guys she dates.
I learned that the hard way a long time ago when I realized I had been unintentionally yet actively criticizing everything about the guys my friend was dating some of them were really nice too but I always found something wrong with them and even when asked always managed to cast them in a dark light, which was a pretty shitty thing to do OP as it made her paranoid and doubt herself.
Nowadays I keep that instinct well in check and will only point out real things to be concerned about and I always discuss my concerns with my girlfriend first to see if they're real things.
OP if you're wondering whether she likes you in that way, ask her. Use a hypothetical if you need to.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 Same as you like her.
I.e. : not much. If you really liked each other, you 'd make an effort to hang out and spend time together, and / or either one would have asked the other out on a date.
As it is, I have to agree with Chigirl, it just sounds like much of an ego thing, about being territorial and " me me me ".
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 It sounds like both of you are agressive and territorial. This doesn't mean you like each other. Being agressive and territorial is about not wanting others near "your" ground. You are claiming ownership over each other. But this isn't a loving and affectionate ownership, it is an agressive one. And, what's worse, you only want to show claim of "territory" by saying/doing hurtful things to the third party.
If you ACTUALLY cared for one another you'd express this to one another in a gentle manner (such as having a need and a want to hold one another, caress, make sure the other is happy). But you aren't doing that, so no, I don't think either of you like one another in a romantic way. You just want to control one another and prevent one another from having other friends of the opposite gender.
If you actually want HER, then you need to make her yours. She does not become yours just because you fight off every competitor, or through control over your "territory". She doesn't become your territory just because you circle around her and bark at every man who gets close. If you want her, you need to have her stay by your side freely, willingly, and then you wont have to fight off other guys because she'll make it clear she doesn't want them.
So, I guess, make up your mind about what you want, because this territorial display of agression is just putting you in a bad light, making you very unattractive to potential dates/girlfriends.
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