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writes: Am I being unreasonable? My fiance told me that this summer (before we got together) he went to a female doctor to get things checked out down there and he said that she was hot and she put her hand around his thing and smiled. Just picturing it pisses me off and him telling me puts a horrible picture in my mind! Would other girls dislike this behavior from their boyfriends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): I'd say he's just trying to make you jealous by telling you this, and who knows if it really happened or not. Whatever actually happened in that doctor's office, I doubt that the physician was making a move on him and it was just his misreading her smile to play into his fantasy.
Now, what I just said beside, if in fact the doctor actually did grab his penis as he claims, it appears that she was not using the proper procedure. I am a medical student, and at my school at least, when any of the students, male or female, examine patients' privates, we don't just go for them, especially not without warning. We're supposed to tell the patient, "Now I'm going to examine your penis/etc., if you are ready," and you give the patient as much autonomy as possible. If the exam can be done with the patient holding his own penis, then we'd prefer to do it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Firstly you have got to remember that this happened before you two had a relationship so it isn't as if she is like competition or something. Secondly she might do that with every man who goes for that type of check-up so instead of making a play for your fiance is trying not to make him feel uncomfortable. But there's something, why did he tell you if it's just in the past? Maybe he's trying to get you to be jealous about it. But remember, there's probably nothing to be jealous of.
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Even if the female doctor did touch his penis and smile it doesn't mean she was being inappropriate. She may have just been trying to keep him at ease and being a man he looked for more into it?
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reader, Whisper +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I think your bloke is winding you up, and by the sounds of it....its working.IF this happened before you got together (VERY UNLIKELY) then why should it matter? Its only natural for your or anyone else to be jelous and i think he knows this, and so is playing with your mind. Just forget about it hun, and dont make yourself feel worse by thinking about it over again....most men boast and bragg, but the reality is this probably didnt even happen xx take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): I think your guy is trying to push your buttons to see if you still care enough to get jealous, and he wants you to think what a great catch he is that all the hot women are in awe of his goods....the fact that he is broadcasting this to you means you have nothing to worry about, if he wanted to fool around on you, he would never mention a thing like this in the first place.
I think he made the whole thing up, I guess you could of said, well maybe she smiled to keep from bursting out laughing, that might put the brakes on this kind of boasting behavior in the future and would have let him know that you weren't amused or threatened in any way!
What a character!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 March 2007):
 He's only looking for a reaction from you to see if it will make you jealous. No woman likes to think of another female touching "their man" down there. Make up a story and tell him something equally exciting and see how he reacts but definitely don't worry about it. He's a guy with a big imagination at that! It was before he met you so forget it!
Eve
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Well as a female I'd rather not know and I'd rather him keep that sort of thing to himself. So I understand how you're feeling., you're not being unreasonable. But it was before you got together so you can't be angry at him for that. He shouldn't have told you but whats done is done. Don't think about it too much,infact don't spend another second thinking about this. Close the page and be done with it. :)Next time make sure you tell him that he should keep some things to himself.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (3 March 2007):
 For the first time on this, I disagree with eddie:-P but only slightly! I dont think you sound insecure cos that sorta boasting will definitely bug most people. But eddie definitely got it right about wishful thinking. Think about it, she had to touch some unknown guy's wiener (cos of her job), an uncomofortable moment, diffused by a quick smile. No big deal. Since it happened before you got together, just tell him that kinda info, you dont need
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 I just want to know where this doctor is . . . I'm due for a check-up. LOL.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 What is thebehaviour that bothers you? The fact he told you? You sound insecure. I'm sure he's reading a little too much into this doctor visit. It's probably wishful thinking on his part. Someone is reading to many fantasy novels.
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