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writes:I hop you can help as I dont know what to do. I'm about to get married next month but my fiance did something horrible to me and i just cant tell if i even want to be with her anymore.She went on her hen night last week and her and her mates got a lift with a couple of blokes they've never met. She told me she ended up with her hand in between the drivers legs. When I demanded to know why she blamed it on the drink. I' was upset enough but I've now been told by one of my friends that while atthe club she left with this man and was gone at least half an hour. My friend went back to the car aand she thinks she saw my fiance giving this bastard head.She flat out denies this and said it was 'just'a bit of private flirting. She's done all but beg me to stay with her and i cant bear it.I just need advice to see if i can salvage this. i just dont know if i want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I agree. Cancel the wedding for sure. Maybe you two can reform a relationship, maybe not. But now is not the time to push forwards with something. Problems like this don't just get cleared up in a couple weeks. She can talk all she wants about the alcohol doing it, but we all know the routine about that. I've been plastered a lot of times to the point of passing out but I have still never cheated on a GF because of it. Alcohol doesn't march her out to some stranger's car by itself. If she can't control herself on the drug then it's her problem not to put herself into positions to lose that control. Her own actions, her own responsibility.
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reader, Mumfert  +, writes (29 August 2008):
Press her until she breaks and tells the truth. A woman does not do that shit when she is engaged - she should be totally preoccupied with the wedding, not flirting - so be strong and leave her. You need someone who loves and respects you.
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reader, cuck counselor  +, writes (28 August 2008):
forgive her and be happy
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reader, mrcrazymontgomery +, writes (27 August 2008):
 You shuold dump her; if you marry her, you will wish you had not married her in a few years.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 August 2008):
 First and foremost, do not go through with the wedding next month. Given some time, you may be able to work through this but in the meantime, Id let things cool down. She had no business even flirting with the guy if she was getting married in a month's time, let alone BEING alone in a car with him. You will have to decide whether she deserves your forgiveness or if you CAN forgive her and put it behind you. I feel for you Buddy! Keep us posted.
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