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writes:I've met a new guy, we're not going out yet but we pretty much act like a couple and I really like him. However I have a problem in that every so often when I'm with him I really start to miss my ex. We broke up in October and we still get on pretty well but I haven't been with any guy since because I didn't really want to move on. In the past week or two I've been with quite a few guys but I still can't get my ex out of my head. I just feel as though no other guy seems to be able to compare to him, even though every other guy I've been with has been better looking and more compatable with me. What can I do? My feelings for my ex are sabautaging my future reltionship and stopping me from commiting to this new guy.
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reader, TRUST +, writes (6 May 2007):
all im saying is that (above or below i duno) is a fantastic answer, it helped me too!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 May 2007):
 You need to ask yourself... "why did we break up in the first place?" Then write down all the things you argued about and disagreed over. What really pissed you off about him? Write down his good points then his bad points. You two split up for a reason (although you didn't say what it was.)
It could be that your ex is trying to play mind games with you, trying to keep you sweet on him. Don't rise to his games. MOVE ON!!!! That's why we have relationships with others, to SEE if we're compatible. Could you imagine you in ten years time with your ex? Do you think he is your knight in shining armour? The one who will love, protect and care for you into old age?
Use positive thinking and tell yourself you don't need him anymore. Look at this new guy you're with and ask yourself what you like about him, is he good to you, does he put you first and your needs before his own? Does he go out of his way for you? YOU have a mind, your feelings come from your mind and YOU are in charge of your feelings so think positive thoughts, enjoy spending time with this new guy, the more fun you have with him the less time you'll have to think about your ex. It really IS all in your mind.
Eve
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (6 May 2007):
 You have raised the point yourself. You compare him to others. Doing this is only going to have a negative effect on you and how you feel for other people you want to get close to.
It is possible you are not ready emotionally for a relationship, as you seem to have strong feelings for your ex still.
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