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writes:Heyy everyone, bit of a problem..Right, me and my boyfriend broke up like three months ago, just after christmas and before new year, which wasnt good really, great start to the new year ey :)Anyway, he gave me his gift just before christmas, a fred perry polo and a realllly like jacket, which im actually in love with, and i got him a really expensive jumper from all saints and jme tickets, he gave me the gifts but i didnt bring my gifts that day because i didnt know if i was going to run into him in town, anyway, we didnt see each other over christmas because we were both with family, so i didnt give him the gift, then we he broke up with me, still havnt give him the gift, and noww, he expects me to give him the gift? does that make sense or am i just being silly? hahaI dont think i am, giving a gift to an ex isnt the way i work, especially when he hurt me that bad, i think he just wants that jumper and tickets badly, which is pathetic. An we have argued every time we have had the chance to speak, and his 'conclusion' is, if i dont want to give him his present i should give him mine back? yano the fred perry polo and that.So basically he wants me to give him my gift back?Does this make sense?What can i do? What can i say without making too much conflict?xxxx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 April 2010):
The gift is yours to keep, and you don't have to give it back. And you don't have to give him his gift either. And to be honest, I wouldn't. I'd stop speaking to this guy and just cut him out.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I must say I am one of those people who return everything from a ring right down to a crappy cd, ...but I don't see why you should have to. It's just a 'me' thing, but I dont think anyoone else should just coz I would. Do what sits with you in this instance.
As for giving him his gift, ... nah, missed his window, and it's almost ludicrous that he actually has the nerve to ask for it. Weird, weird , weird if you ask me lol.
Return it to the store, get your money back, and go treat yourself :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): Why are you still even speaking to this guy? Keep your gift; it's your gift and you don't have to give it back. He broke up with you so he is not entitled to get what you bought for him. Just refuse to discuss the issue, but I suspect both of you are using the gift "issue" as an excuse to keep communicating with each other.
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