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*raig r
writes:ive recently split after a 6yr relationship with my ex.we have a 11 month old boy together who we both love dearly..she left me 2 months ago and took our son too..she is now living with her mom and sister..during the 6 yrs she has cheated 6 times and been abusive to me with proof..she is now got pnd.she has done anything to hurt me.the lastest she has done is stopped me from seeing our son..she left 2 months ago and i have had our son every weekend since the break up..last weekend she told me she is changing my weekends to every other week...im not happy with this at all as the love and bond me and our son has built is amazing. as i didnt agree she said im not seeing our son until i have been to court..she has told me she knows i will only get to see and have him every 2 weeks..i feel it would break our bond so im taking her to court..whats the possibilities of me NOT having him every week as i always have for the last 8-9weeks..can she do this to me and our son???
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reader, craig r +, writes (15 April 2009):
craig r is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive always kept up with financial support for our son.there is NOTHING i wouldnt do for his best interest.ive recieved a message out the blue from the ex saying i can have him friday 10am until sat 5pm this weekend.coincidently its her 2 days at work.she works alternative shifts.2 days a week.she wants me to sign a stupid non worthy piece of paper saying i will take him back to her on the time she has stated..nothing legal.its just her control issue she has i think.anything to please her.i have agreed to it obviously as it means seeing my son but its not helping the situation as i still dont know when im seeing our son from one day to the next.its his 1st birthday next weekend.but yet she wont respond to my messages asking if i can see him then.she knows the only way to get at me is by using our son as a weopon.hence telling me i cant see him then saying i can.surely thats not good on our son also not knowing where he will be one day to the next with mother or father.all that matters to me is our son has regular contact with me and his mother, all she is doing is picking and choosing random days cuz she knows i will jump to it..her control..thats not good for anyone..least of all our son.nothing she is doing is in the interest of our son:(..she can see im getting on with life.but she is now stuck at her moms.cant get a home as she gave up the one im in.where our son was born and lived for the 1st 9-10 months of his life then every week there after until the recent issues..will all the above be taken into cosideration??many thanks..craig..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Good for you for being a responsible caring father to your son. Not knowing all the ins and outs of your relationship makes it difficult to guess what the court will decide. All I can say is that you need to get yourself a good solicitor to argue your case. I imagine that because you have had access every week for the last 8-9 weeks a precedent has been set, but I'm no lawyer and I'd just be guessing that the court would decide that arrangement should continue. I would hope that you've been facing up to your financial responsibilities, and if you have, that can only go in your favour.Prepare for battle and leave no stone unturned in your fight for access. Forget sentiment or any feelings you may have for her and fight your corner with all you've got.Best of luck
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