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writes:Please jump to the last paragraph if my background story is too wordy :')I am 17-year old and gay. I was best friend with this guy i just met this year, from Feb all the way to beginning of July. We were best friends and would call each other brothers. It was clear that we loved each other. While none of us have ever opened up about being gay or bisexual, we would tease each other about it and occasionally say "I love you" to each other. We missed each other frequently too, and often spent everyday being together as long as possible. Our relationship wasn't THAT perfectly smooth since we quarreled a lot, but we believed that it was exactly the reason we were such close friends.On July, he broke up with me for a girl i had been hating (since she tried to get between us a lot). I was so devastated and clingy for like 2 weeks. I posted complaints in twitter and fb and finally decided to send a last text to my boyfriend, telling him to cut off all contacts (and so that i could rant freely, calling his new girlfriend a bitch, etc)Early in the August he called to shout and rant, telling me to move on, leave them alone and stop complaining (i found out that he was clearly stalking me). He told me he still sees me as a friend and would like me to change. He hated knowing i was such a jerk. I apologized and he promised me he'd one day reply to my text again when i have changedEver since that day i have been doing NC. I read a lot about Law of Attraction, reconciliation success stories, etc. It was awesome and everything went well. I believed so strongly that my boyfriend was just in a rebound r/ship since he was so quick in doing everything we would do tgt, but with that girl. I visualized him breaking up, etc. AND IT WORKED! The r/ship was indeed a rebound and they were separated for unknown reasons.I began noticing my ex looking at me in sch and i was feeling super positive. "Online advices work, the magic works!" i thought. Then i became too excited that i decided to contact him. I texted him a totally random question, asking if he would have the same Chemistry test as i do on Friday. He could at least reply with a yes/no, but to my horror he didn't reply.I regretted contacting him. Now i feel like i'm back to square one and had been hoping for nothing... I'm so depressed again right now, after things went so well.tl:dr, i broke up with my boyfriend and he was in a rebound relationship. I did NC and he broke up with his rebound after about 4 weeks and is now most likely single again. I'd think that he ended the new r/ship because NC worked and he missed me. Yet he's still avoiding me in sch. He makes seemingly 0 effort in making up with me, yet still looks at me frequently in school (and looks away quickly). I'm confused, do i still stand a chance?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Thanks a lot for the answers, i'm glad i asked here. My self confidence and faith to move on have just been boosted. Hopefully i can pull through this tough moment =')
Thx so much again! May God bless all of you, i hope everybody can have a happy ending in any r/ship in their lives
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): You sound like a lovely person and if I was you I would not be doing all the chasing I would give him some space and if its ment to be he will come back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2011): Wow? Why such a date? Thx a lot, i guess in such a depressed state, i can't have a better answer than that. Encouraging and "promising" with a very specific timing. It makes me want to believe and stay strong one more time... =')
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2011): i would forget this person. Why do you want to be with some one who moves on so quick yet expects you to change. That guy is a joke. You can do better for yourself.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (25 August 2011):
 Sure you still stand a chance. HOWEVER, your former BF is in a confused state... so you can't get close to him for the time being. Take a calendar and mark November 19th on it. On that date, give him a call and ask, "Hey... long time, no see.... how are you doing????"
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