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writes:Hello all agony aunts I need some help in the current situation I'm in, my ex of almost a year who has a girlfriend (his ex) has now lead me on twice. The first time was back in feburary in which he almost kissed me and told me the old feelings have come back but didn't do anything from there. Then a week ago telling me that he was bored in his relationship and misses being with me. So I sent an email telling him that I still have feelings for him, he tells me after that he was just teasing me. I'm very hurt and I dont know where to go from here advice please ;-;
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reader, I'llTryToHelp +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Wow, I know how much this hurts! Not just your feelings but you feel exposed and vulnerable now. Your pride is hurt, too!
This happened to me once. I remember how I felt just like it was yesterday. (10 years ago) The important thing is the lesson you learned and I learned. He can't be trusted! EVER!
Delete his phone number, his email, anything you have that you contacted him with previously. Throw away or put away anything you have that will remind you of him. Do this immediately! It is so freeing, believe me. Trust me and do this ASAP and be done with him.
Next, get busy with friends and family. If he knows you're going out, having fun and getting on with your life, that's the best payback there is. It shows you aren't wasting any time pining away for him.
If you catch yourself thinking of him, turn your thoughts to how lucky you are to be rid of him and muster up some sympathy for his current girlfriend because she's gonna need it. Just think, he's probably already cheated on her with someone else just as he tried to with you. He's not gonna treat he any better than he treated you.
Stay Strong and Hold Your Head Up High!
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 I know this must really hurt but you need to be strong and move on!
he is a jerk and he doesnt deserve you. Dont ever trust in him again, and look for someone who really loves you?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Sorry to hear this guy was such a jerk to you. I'd delete him from the address/phone/whatever list you have and block his email address and his phone numbers. You don't need to explain, the wall you put up between you and him will be enough of an indication that you aren't willing to talk to him anymore.
You let yourself be vulnerable and show your feelings, and they got stomped on by a rude, selfish idiot. So be a bit wary from now on, but don't stop being your sweet, caring self to people you know you can trust.
All the best.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Oh, this hurt reading about. My advice would be to never trust him again, to never go there again whatever he says to you. I know it is hard if you still have feelings for him, but he doesn't seem stable and doesn't seem to know what he is doing and want, and I'm afraid you will be hurt more if you have any contact at all with him.
I had a boyfriend once who did the same thing. I felt hurt not only because I liked him, but also because I felt not respected. This feeling disappeared a while after my decision to never respond to his further "wanting back again"-stories and today I can't see what I ever saw in him :))
So there's hope, just stay strong until he's out of your system and then you are ready to meet a much better guy who will treat you as you deserve - good!
Wish you luck, tell us how it goes!
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