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writes:I need some advise. Me and my ex bf of 6 years broke up about 2 years ago due to arguments. He has a new gf who he has been with for the 2 years, but throughout the 2 years he has been emailing me, texting me asking me to meet him saying he is thinking whether to give us another chance. It's been 2 years. I really don't know what to do, I still love him which I think is the main reason I keep giving him chances. But still to this day he won't choose to finish her and be with me or leave me alone and be with her, please some one tell me what I need to do!!!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): He needs to make his mind because he's messing you about and you need to tell him that he either chooses her and doesn't get into contact with you or he chooses you and finishes his relationship with her because what he's doing right now is stopping you from moving on.Hope this helps.
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reader, Soldierette +, writes (2 February 2013):
 Right so in other words you want to be second best??Sorry to sound so harsh love but if he really wanted you he would've ended it with her changed his number address etc etc and be with youNot keep asking you and pestering you but still being with her..And love, where is your respect for yourself?? What's up with you wanting him back?.. love is great but is it really love when you know your ex man is with someone else?? Wake up smell the coffee love, it's got poison in it, and you'll soon be in trouble if you fall for this?!If he doesn't leave his gf or hasn't by now he never will, he will just keep stringing you alongBest advice I can give.. change your number and ignore him..move on with your life, you deserve better my girl!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 That's because we guys like to have BOTH a "real girlfriend"... AND a "bit on the side".. who is willing to give us "passes".. indefinitely... and won't drop our sorry bottoms.... whilest WE get to have our cake (our current "girlfriend") and eat it too (YOU!!!).... so we never have to act like adults and make a REAL DECISION!!!
Good luck... for as long as you allow this to continue...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 "My ex is asking me to give him another chance but he won't finish with his girlfriend. What should I do?"
You say no and stop contacting him. There's a reason you broke up, and now you have yet another reason to never date him again: he's a two timing cheater. Yes, it is cheating, he's wooing you while at the same time having a girlfriend, and his suggestion to "try again" with you while still having a girlfriend also spells it out pretty clear: cheater.
Sure you can love him, go ahead, everyone has something in them worth loving. But to be with him and face unavoidable pain and heartache would be stupidity. Keep a tender memory in your heart instead, and move on to someone more worth your time. And stop playing second violin, if he's not single then he's got no business texting and e-mailing you. Cut the contact and don't lower yourself to being his woman on the side (which you at the moment are, mind you, whether you've slept with him or not). You are young, and there are better fish in the sea than this one.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 You stop responding to his emails so you have nothing to wait for. You will stop loving him if you don't allow him to contact you. Both of you can only start fresh with someone else when you are over each other. When you refuse to let go, you are only losing more because there are better guys suited to you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 February 2013):
You'd be insane to bother with someone like this. He has entirely liked to his current girlfriend of 2 years, and he;s entirely lied to you.
Cut contact with him, because you'll only get hurt if you don't. The man has no backbone at all, and even if he did dump her for you, you can't trust that he won't do the same thing to you.
No more wasting time on this guy please.
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