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writes:i was in a relationship for 11 years until 4 months ago.we were soulmates hardly ever argued if we did we always communicated.we went through some hardships were my ex was on drugs for the first 7 years i stuck by his side he got clean and has been ever since we planned and had a baby together who is know 4 we lost one b4 him.6 months before he left he started acting really funny not towards me his feeling were still the same but he would go out and sometimes not come back till the next day i started to suspect drugs again but a different drug this time.we had confrontations and 3 times he broke down and cried and said he had a problem with drink and cocaine he said he would sort it and if he couldnt he would leave.things carried on then one saturday morning he arrived home and said he didnt want to be with me no more he wanted his freedom and learn to stand on his own too feet so i let him go cause i believd he was being honest with me.a week later i saw him with someone else which broke my heart he still sees our little boy but i cant see him as i still love him very much.im still not convinced he isnt going to com back
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): There are cases when the woman does decide to let go but the drug addict by threats and intimidations convinces her to stay, dragging her into a path of misery and contrition, and the chidren as well. Very rarely do they have the will to change and given there is a child involved it is for the best that he decided to walk away from you. I am sure there are parents that use drugs and can still be good parents to their children, but you are not guaranteed this is also your case, are you?Be more preoccupied for the child's safety and his not being exposed to the harrowing picture of seeing his father drunk or under the bad influence of drugs, speaking incorrectly to his mother, to you. Meanwhile, you can offer your ex your help outside your home, and / or contact his family or people he knows that can influence him to persevere in his decision to "stand on his two feet" and encourage him to do so. Lastly, life with a drug addict is not "precisely" domestic bliss and it is time for you, too, to recover and see how you can refill your life. All the best.
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