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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I dated this guy in 2000 we hit it off we acted as husband and wife with children I have from another relationship.everything was going great but things started to change not physical he never put his hands on me but when we get in arguments he would leave for days at a time with no contact and I would be worried to pieces.So as the years went on by we broke it off I moved and we didn't come in contact for many years until 2012 I found him on facebook he was very over joyed to here my voice we talked he told me he loved me and missed me now he wants to come back home.I really care for him but as time want on my love has worn thin before his mom died he told her he loved me so much he wanted to marry me.So what measures can I take to see if my ex really wants to marry me or he just wants a roof over his head and sex when he wants it because if this is all he wants I am not interested time is moving and I don't have time to waste on a man with nothing on is mind but good food,great sex,and a clean home.I deserve more than this he has to be independent,hardworking ,and respects me.I mean he was all of the above then but who's to say what he's on now.I am going to tell him if he don't (Ring it) then( Swing it )some where else point blank period if you know what I 'm saying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): Thanks for the feed back and I choose to move on I am not going back to this I don't have time for this sh...a matter of fact I am looking elsewhere:)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 No need to bring up the ring. A ring is a relatively cheap price to buy what you suspect he wants : a convenience.
That's sort of easy actually. How do you know he does not just want a roof over his head and sex when he wants it ? Simple . You give him neither , for now. You date, you talk, you go out together - no sex and no moving in. Until when YOU feel ready and not a moment sooner. . If he's genuine, he'll understand and stick around. If he's not, he'll get tired pretty ,pretty soon.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 February 2013):
 if your ex really wanted to marry you he would have married you... if he wanted to find you he would have found you... in this day and age it's almost impossible not to find someone.
DO not listen to his words... listen to his actions.
Tell you what... don't think of him as an ex.
think of him as a brand new guy you've never met.
let him woo you
court you
prove himself to you
give him time to hang himself.
don't give up sex so fast
and don't move him into your home...
it's a new day
you are a new woman
he is a new man
NO talk of marriage for at least a year
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 he told you he loved you and missed you, unfortunately times have changed and with time people change.You guys broke up for a reason that reason is still there it hasn't gone.He would leave for days when you guys argued whose to say he didn't find someone else in that time?I've always said i would never get back with an ex because that time happened and it didn't work that's why they're an ex. A lot of people who get back with exs have more problems and these reasons that is the reason they broke up in the first place always come to light again in arguments and what not.If you guys feel for eachother and want to try i suggest taking it slow i know you've said time is moving on but you can't rush into things you NEED to make sure it's the RIGHT choice for yourself and him.
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