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writes:I split up with my lover a while back because we had issues that couldn't be resolved,we were together 3 years and it was me who decided to end it.Anyway i found out that he has been seeing someone else and for some reason i felt gutted and very jealous.Why do i feel like this when i thought i didn't love him anymore? I feel sad and heart broken even though i finished with him.So why do i feel like this?
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reader, loops +, writes (27 May 2007):
I agree with DV1 I have been in a similar situation a few months back. I split up with my ex because his emotional problems were bringing me down. I did it with a heavy heart because I did genuinely love this guy but it wasnt working. A few months later it was revealed he was seeing his co-worker and they were getting engaged and buying a flat. I was absolutley torn apart. worst thing about it was the fact I felt I had no right to feel jealousy or upset. You have every right trust me, although you called it off because it was not working doesnt mean that the feelings stop, it just means rationally you believe it wouldnt work. Feelings dont come into rationality and you were together a good few years, let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. Get some friends round and talk about it, youll find your not the only one and it may make yuou feel better. Its took me 5 months to not burst into tears at the mere mention of my ex's name, and I still go funny on the mention of his new girlfriend. Your not the only one, and your definatley not wrong for it. Good luck :)
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Even though you break up with someone due to issues, it doesn't mean that you have stopped loving them. A part of you probably remembers the good times, and may also be in shock because he has moved on, and you haven't.
DV1
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): You feel like that because you feel like he 'bruised' your ego...when you broke up with him you probably deep down expected him to come crawling back to you and beg for your forgiveness. Maybe you didn't even realize that is what you wanted but it must be. You obviously aren't done with him yet or you wouldn't be fretting about it. I was in a similar situation and those feelings you are feeling right now are the reason I took him back...I had no one to talk to and I was at a bad time in my life and to be honest...I do regret taking him back about 75% of the time. We are still together to this day, it has been over 4 years....
I would suggest to you, suck it up and move on...do not let him know that he meant that much to you. Let him be the one at home thinking about who you are with...
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reader, cd206 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You don't love him anymore, you just don't want anyone else to love him. It;s a perfectly natural reaction to have that will pass in time and is part of the natural grieving process at the end of the relationship.
CD
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