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writes:Hey Guys,Hoping for a bit of help on this one...So, a couple of days ago there came an oppotunity to meet one of my sister's firends for the first time as we both know a mutual friend (A guy friend). It was on a night out at a nightclub and I didn't speak to her much and that was pretty much it for that night.The next day, my sister tells me that she plays CoD (Call of Duty) which is something I love (as do most guys) which I thought my sister was joking about but she actually does and we ended up playing a few games together. Later on in the day we spoke on facebook chat and it was pretty mindblowing, it was the first time I'd had a serious conversation with her and it honestly felt like I'd known her for years, we were joking around and getting on like a house on fire. She is basically like a male friend, she is just a great laugh and has a great personality.The next day there was no getting her out of my head, she is how I'd imagine my dream girl, I was just counting down the hours until I could get home and speak to her again. we have the same interests and seem a good match for each other but it gets a bit awkward from this point on as she has been seeing one of my friends, a very good friend......he is only 17 (nearly 18) and she is 20, she tells me that she isn't seeing him (I joked about this a little saying that it's her boyfriend and stuff and she was adamant that he wasn't, saying a lot of his friends have been asking the same thing and it's annoying her)and they both agreed that they are 'just friends' - (I don't think he knows we speak quite a lot and definately doesn't know that I like her as he still tells me stuff about them together), but the stories he has told me suggest therwise i.e they've had sex and done other stuff. Another thing is that she could do a lot better than this guy, way better. I'm not trying to hint that 'better' is me, but she deserves better than him for sure. I'm at a brick wall here and don't know what to do at all, my sister told me that she 'liked' me the other night when we were out, but she was pretty hammered. We get on great and I literally cannot wait for the next chance I get to speak to her. Although she is kinda seeing my friend (but denies it, as she doesn't know he's told me what's gone on), what can I do here? I want the girl and don't wanna lose or anger my friend - I honestly couldn't bare to see them together as I've made such a quick connection with this girl and it'd be pretty upsetting to be honest.Just a final note, I've never been confident with girls before, but I am 100% myself with this girl, I'm a pretty weird and out there guy some times and I'll say something completely random and she'll reply with something that would crack me up or similar to a guy friend would say in a bit of banter. I'm really trying to move forward with girls more now and show them how I feel as I'm typically the guy who would land in the friend zone.I hope you guys can help me out here....Thanks so much.
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 April 2011):
N91 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just want to say thanks guys, I went for it, and so far it's been going amazingly well.
I've just had to post a new question up regarding her though as she's given me a little bit of bad news :(
Thanks again guys.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (8 March 2011):
In the end you won't have them both happy, unless you leave them alone now. But I agree with NotDoneYet in that you have the right to go on as nobody is telling you otherwise.
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