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writes:Hi, well my parents are divorced, and each of them have a new bf or gf. My mums perfectly fine, and I live with her mostly, but whenever I visit my dad, all he and his gf do is argue. Now I know adults argue all the time, but what I dont like is how they bring me and my younger brother into it. Obviously I dont understand the whole situation but from what I pick up my dads gf is madly in love with him and he is cold and doesn't pay any attention to her. Now I see things from both sides. HE should be more loving and SHE shouldnt over react so much! I just hate the atmosphere because every single time i have arrived home from being with my friends shes there crying, my dads drinking and smoking and my brother is stuck in the middle! So i try to take him out as much as possible. Shes a lovely person, dont get me wrong but I realy need to sort this out as it seems im the only mature one here. Typical. I just hate it all and I cant concentrate on anything else with them yelling and crying. And I hate it when she bad mouths my dad. Deep down I think he loves her but hes just the type of person who doesnt show it. And thats him. I just need some ideas on how to stop this because its driving me insane and I know it affects my brother. Please help me
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (10 May 2008):
 No, adults do not argue all the time. It seems to me that your dad and his partner may be a bit incompatible. Unfortunately there is not a lot that either you or your brother can do about it. You can only really speak to your dad about it and let him know how it affects you and your brother. Let him know that you worry about it and it upsets you. Your dad may not actually realise this. His girlfriend may be a lovely person but I think she would be wiser to move on if she keeps getting so upset. It clearly is not working out for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): yes..they always fight my older sister and her boyfriend fight all the time..arguments can be healthy..it clears the air. tell them how you feel and hopefully they'll stop argueing so much.
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